Hello @BetrayedDad I came across your thread and just finished it. What an ordeal that you had to face due to your narcissistic ex. I'm sorry that you had to deal with that.
I also read that she is still with the guy that is 15 years younger than her. It's been eight years now. It seems that your kids like him a lot. It's possible that your ex might think that she may not be able to do any better than her current partner and for reasons of his own, he's still with her.
I wanted to suggest that you may want to consider building a bridge with him for the sake of your kids. Do some bonding activities like fishin', huntin', bowling balls, playing videogames (whatever it is that you both do). This could give you additional leverage in your co-parenting situations. This could help improve your kid's situation and it'll be good for your self-realization that you can build a bond with him with a feeling of detachment towards your ex.
On the flip side, you may not want to consider this as well. It's been eight years since you got divorced. So, I'm guessing that your kids are of the ages 13 to 16. Which means it'll only be a couple of years when they'd be 18 and they don't have to visit their mom as often. So, building a bond with him may be moot. It looks like they have a good relationship with him so far without your involvement, and I can't see why that can't continue going forward.
Something for you to think and weigh in.
I also read that she is still with the guy that is 15 years younger than her. It's been eight years now. It seems that your kids like him a lot. It's possible that your ex might think that she may not be able to do any better than her current partner and for reasons of his own, he's still with her.
I wanted to suggest that you may want to consider building a bridge with him for the sake of your kids. Do some bonding activities like fishin', huntin', bowling balls, playing videogames (whatever it is that you both do). This could give you additional leverage in your co-parenting situations. This could help improve your kid's situation and it'll be good for your self-realization that you can build a bond with him with a feeling of detachment towards your ex.
On the flip side, you may not want to consider this as well. It's been eight years since you got divorced. So, I'm guessing that your kids are of the ages 13 to 16. Which means it'll only be a couple of years when they'd be 18 and they don't have to visit their mom as often. So, building a bond with him may be moot. It looks like they have a good relationship with him so far without your involvement, and I can't see why that can't continue going forward.
Something for you to think and weigh in.
