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@BigbadBootyDaddy posted on another thread that 90 % of men only need their partners to keep their belly's full and their balls to be empty to be content in the relationship. The 10% outliers are insignificant.

What say you men of TAM? Are you within the 90% who only care about sec and food, or the 10% who need "more" to be happy in a relationship?
 

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@BigbadBootyDaddy posted on another thread that 90 % of men only need their partners to keep their belly's full and their balls to be empty to be content in the relationship. The 10% outliers are insignificant.

What say you men of TAM? Are you within the 90% who only care about sec and food, or the 10% who need "more" to be happy in a relationship?
I think it's as stupid a rule as "happy wife, happy life" and smacks of passive-aggressiveness, transactional thinking, boxing people into roles and especially emotional terrorism.
 

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Not even close. I need emotional connection, mental stimulation, fun, activities together. I need to be cuddled often, hugged and flirted with as well.

I'm the cook and having a full belly is good for both our moods.

Sex is good for both of us as well.

If all I ever had was food and sex,.....?

This might sound bad but I can't even see getting married or even dating someone just for those two things.
 

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@BigbadBootyDaddy posted on another thread that 90 % of men only need their partners to keep their belly's full and their balls to be empty to be content in the relationship. The 10% outliers are insignificant.

What say you men of TAM? Are you within the 90% who only care about sec and food, or the 10% who need "more" to be happy in a relationship?
Ha!

I was waiting for this topic to be more "thoroughly investigated".

Well done.

I have to think a bit on this. Because there are few absolutes in rule setting, if you will.
 

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Sounds about right. Might be 80/20 depending on other factors like she could still be bat**** crazy and meet the two above qualifications. Add in minimal drama and you have a winner.

And this is a good answer. For a rich, mature relationship it can't be just those two items.

Without the other ingredients in an enjoyable well rounded relationship it wouldn't last and not be fulfilling.
 

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It just not enough for me either, l still have to like her and want to be desired by her. But she would still expect the same in return. But as time changes for me because of my emotions, if she's not interested much then as all things considered comes to the fact that she just not that into me. And given some time l will make a decision for my part of the relationship.

The full belly and empty balls, just is meaningless if their is no love and attraction. The relationship is dead, and would rather live by myself than be tormented by the thought of a desire to be desired. That is meaningless to my wife and not return in the same manner.

I also need my wife to be individual, in the ways she will let herself be. To add value to my life and appreciate the compromise's l have gave for the family, but l must also value her for all the compromise's she gave.
 
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Sounds about right. Might be 80/20 depending on other factors like she could still be bat**** crazy and meet the two above qualifications. Add in minimal drama and you have a winner.

And this is a good answer. For a rich, mature relationship it can't be just those two items.

Without the other ingredients in an enjoyable well rounded relationship it wouldn't last and not be fulfilling.
Yea, ruling out obvious things like affairs, alcoholism/drug abuse and spending problems. Ruling those out, I'd be content in those three. Maybe not blown out of the water, but content yes.
 

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There is just as much credence,and probably more,to me saying that the 'belly's full/balls empty' men are the real outliers.
 

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Sounds about right. Might be 80/20 depending on other factors like she could still be bat**** crazy and meet the two above qualifications. Add in minimal drama and you have a winner.
I'm thinking 80/20 might be closer to the mark right now. But with the way society is headed it might even get lower.
 

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I'm hungry, and looking forward to an evening's encounter tonight.

There will be holidays and planning discussions I'm sure, and etc, but to round out the evening I'll be full, and we'll both be content in multiple ways.

I'll just roll with that tonight. 😎😎👍👍👍❤❤
 

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Well, it's a good starting point, but like Conan, I want and need a lot more. However, if these are missing (esp. the sex, as I AM capable of feeding myself!), then "everything else" won't be sufficient.
 

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Well, it's a good starting point, but like Conan, I want and need a lot more. However, if these are missing (esp. the sex, as I AM capable of feeding myself!), then "everything else" won't be sufficient.
How is it a good starting point?

I want a partner, not an indentured servant who's job it is to cook and service me. It's literally no different than "if momma ain't happy, aint nobody happy."

Keeping myself fed and happy is my job, not my wife's. It's my job to meet my own needs, not hers.

I usually want to help her be happy, and she usually wants to help me be happy. But those things are on me as an adult, not on her. And if I'm not doing my own work in the relationship, I sure as hell can't come home demanding sex and a hot meal.
 

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While the thought in the post was simplistic... it is kind of true...

I am not that simplistic, I do want more.

Mostly, I want to feel loved, I want to be loved.

Now, since I need sex to feel loved, it includes sex. But that is only one part.

The thing that is also, true, is that some Men are pathetic about sex and the women they are with is the only one and all that crap.

Women that are with me should understand... I am a better cook that almost everyone of you.

And if I don't feel loved, and I am not getting laid, I will find a way to have the need for love and sex fulfilled. If it goes on long enough, the first step will be to lose whoever I am with.
 

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Those two things are most important to me as well.

When it comes to sex though, I also expect there to be desire and fun and caring and love. Not just the act itself, but the feelings of love that go with it.
 

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Those two things are most important to me as well.

When it comes to sex though, I also expect there to be desire and fun and caring and love. Not just the act itself, but the feelings of love that go with it.
I agree. To me, those two are pretty much the foundation of any healthy relationship. Everything else in the relationship is up to you to build and as we all know a building can't stand without a good foundation
 

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How is it a good starting point?

I want a partner, not an indentured servant who's job it is to cook and service me. It's literally no different than "if momma ain't happy, aint nobody happy."

Keeping myself fed and happy is my job, not my wife's. It's my job to meet my own needs, not hers.

I usually want to help her be happy, and she usually wants to help me be happy. But those things are on me as an adult, not on her. And if I'm not doing my own work in the relationship, I sure as hell can't come home demanding sex and a hot meal.

When you're alone it's all on you. When you have a partner, then it's on both of you to nurture the relationship and contribute to each other's happiness, otherwise why not be alone? I think you're deliberately being contrary - you've read enough of my posts here to know what I mean.
 

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When you're alone it's all on you. When you have a partner, then it's on both of you to nurture the relationship and contribute to each other's happiness, otherwise why not be alone? I think you're deliberately being contrary - you've read enough of my posts here to know what I mean.
I guess what I’m reacting to is that some guys don’t see this kind of thing that way at all - that it’s literally their wife’s job to do this.
 
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