Please forgive me, this is the first time posting on this type of forum.
My wife and I have been married for 17 years and were married at a fairly young age. We have 3 pre teen children and are both employed in well paying jobs.
Over the years we have had our bumps, but overall we have been very successful and commutes to one another. Over the last few years I have found that she becomes a different person when she is out with her friends, the kind of person I would like her to be with me. Additionally we have had some intimacy issues due to her low sex drive. We used to have an amazing, passionate bedroom life, but it has become more duty and quick get it done than involved and caring.
After many open and honest conversations about how we feel and what we need to work on I have found myself wanting to stop the pain. The last straw actually just occurred when she chose to take a trip out of town for a concert rather than stay with me and work out our issues after a dust up.
Here's the kicker. The trip was with a group of several of her gay male friends. This normally wouldn't be an issue but for the fact that she has allowed them to grope her breasts and has made out with more than one of them on other occasions when I have not been around. She is also sharing a bed with one of them.
She doesn't seem to feel this is a big deal and even added insult to injury by posing for cutesy pictures on Facebook knowing I was unbelievably upset and upset about the situation. All the while she professes her love for me and that she doesn't want to ever do anything to hurt me.
J believe that she believes what she says, but is also just happier away and doing what she wants.
I think we need to separate and reevaluate what this relationship means to each of us, she says whatever you want and that she is just numb.
Please, any insights are extremely welcome
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My wife and I have been married for 17 years and were married at a fairly young age. We have 3 pre teen children and are both employed in well paying jobs.
Over the years we have had our bumps, but overall we have been very successful and commutes to one another. Over the last few years I have found that she becomes a different person when she is out with her friends, the kind of person I would like her to be with me. Additionally we have had some intimacy issues due to her low sex drive. We used to have an amazing, passionate bedroom life, but it has become more duty and quick get it done than involved and caring.
After many open and honest conversations about how we feel and what we need to work on I have found myself wanting to stop the pain. The last straw actually just occurred when she chose to take a trip out of town for a concert rather than stay with me and work out our issues after a dust up.
Here's the kicker. The trip was with a group of several of her gay male friends. This normally wouldn't be an issue but for the fact that she has allowed them to grope her breasts and has made out with more than one of them on other occasions when I have not been around. She is also sharing a bed with one of them.
She doesn't seem to feel this is a big deal and even added insult to injury by posing for cutesy pictures on Facebook knowing I was unbelievably upset and upset about the situation. All the while she professes her love for me and that she doesn't want to ever do anything to hurt me.
J believe that she believes what she says, but is also just happier away and doing what she wants.
I think we need to separate and reevaluate what this relationship means to each of us, she says whatever you want and that she is just numb.
Please, any insights are extremely welcome
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