I think you probably need to give yourself some time... especially since you're still in the separated category and not even divorced. I have a feeling that if the time would be right for you, you probably wouldn't need to ask the question about how to change those conversations and it would happen naturally, yes?My wife and I have been married for 3 years and dated for a year prior to that. We are separated and I know that she considers me an ex. She does not admit it to me, but to friends she calls me an ex. I need to move on but do not want to be lonely. I am not sure if I need to start dating, but if I do, how do I go about doing this again. How do I change a conversation from "water spots on a car" to "can I have your number"?