First time poster here. No reason to not be harsh on me, I can take it. My Wife and I seperated in April this year after a 12 year marriage. She had an affair with her boss that started someitme last year and continued for months until I caught her. We have two kids together who we now split 50/50 custody.
I filed for divorce and she moved out. We are waiting for the next court date where we should (and will) be divorced. We were no contact for some time execpt for kids and she acted like she hated me. One day she reached out to me and asked me out on a date. I said no. She continued to ask a few more times over the next few weeks and one night she just stopped by late at night. We ended up sleeping together. a few weeks later she asked again about a date. I agreed that it wouldn't hurt to go out and see what she had to say. She started telling me how much she missed me and how sad she was. We decided that we would attempt, with no promises, to try and start dating and see what would come of it.
We went out on a few dates and things went well. We talked about just out a few times to see how things went, then we would start talking about the reall issues. Her affair. A few days after we went out she was at a party where we had mutual friends. She was talking to our mutual friends about how we were trying to see if we would work things out. Well, the friends were happy and wished us the best. A few hours later one of those friends caught her making out with a guy in the bathroom at the party. That friend came right over my house that night to tell me what she saw. I was shocked. Why would she do this to me. I told her to leave me alone.
A little time passed and know she wants to try and work things out again. Why do I feel like I need to try one more time. It is obvious that she can't control herself. What is wrong with me? I miss her so much and I have had so much trouble moving on. I am willing to bet not one person here things I should try again.
Oh well. Advice?
I filed for divorce and she moved out. We are waiting for the next court date where we should (and will) be divorced. We were no contact for some time execpt for kids and she acted like she hated me. One day she reached out to me and asked me out on a date. I said no. She continued to ask a few more times over the next few weeks and one night she just stopped by late at night. We ended up sleeping together. a few weeks later she asked again about a date. I agreed that it wouldn't hurt to go out and see what she had to say. She started telling me how much she missed me and how sad she was. We decided that we would attempt, with no promises, to try and start dating and see what would come of it.
We went out on a few dates and things went well. We talked about just out a few times to see how things went, then we would start talking about the reall issues. Her affair. A few days after we went out she was at a party where we had mutual friends. She was talking to our mutual friends about how we were trying to see if we would work things out. Well, the friends were happy and wished us the best. A few hours later one of those friends caught her making out with a guy in the bathroom at the party. That friend came right over my house that night to tell me what she saw. I was shocked. Why would she do this to me. I told her to leave me alone.
A little time passed and know she wants to try and work things out again. Why do I feel like I need to try one more time. It is obvious that she can't control herself. What is wrong with me? I miss her so much and I have had so much trouble moving on. I am willing to bet not one person here things I should try again.
Oh well. Advice?