It's my opinion that "shrewness" is essentially a byproduct of women being spoiled.
How many fathers spoil their little girls? I'm going to guess 60-80%.
How many women here would admit they were spoiled? I'm going to guess 10-20%. Actually, I think that's generous.
In fact, I am going to guess a lot of women would post how they aren't spoiled and never were and yet, if their husbands were sitting beside them on the computer, they would be saying, "Yes dear. . .and you should wear leather too."
Women have a very hard time admitting that our culture tends to spoil them. I recall of an episode of Friends when Ross siad that Rachel was a little bit spoiled and it wasn't meant for her ears. She couldn't handle it (the truth) and broke up with him.
Not exactly literature. . .but they were a group of clever writers to feel like such a small admission could definitely cause a break-up.
Too true! What used to be called a "shrew" we would call a "drama queen" now. As they say, "spare the rod and spoil the child". Darn - there's that physical violence again!
As far as the spanking and locking in a room - I think a smart, mature man would actually be able to find a way to control a shrew by other methods than physical assault. It might not be as fun for him, but there are ways.
LOL. . .I see you disagreeing with the methods, but not disagreeing with the principle that women need to be tamed.
As far as the spanking and locking in a room - I think a smart, mature man would actually be able to find a way to control a shrew by other methods than physical assault. It might not be as fun for him, but there are ways.
LOL. . .I see you disagreeing with the methods, but not disagreeing with the principle that women need to be tamed.
A good villian, from writers, causes us to hate them, to despise what we have in ourselves.
Nellie Olson (and Laura Ingalls Wildler wrote this from a little girl's perspective), you loved to hate, becuase she couild be a "shrew" and get away with it, without repercussions from her parents. Every woman knows they have acted like a shrew, maybe even is a shrew, but hated seeing also that that character was the "villian" in the heroine's eys.
Yes, women need to have repercussions when they act like shrews I have come to learn.
It's up to men to be judge, jury and executioner, complete with whips, chains, and all that, LOL
LOL. . .anyway to answer the question - according to Shakespeare, it can only be attractive as the man who is capable of taming the temper.
In the case of movies, Richard Burton found Elizabeth Taylor attractive after he tamed her in Hollywoods version of the Shakespeare classic.
And yes, ladies, if you yourself are a shrew, I welcome you to my place for "therapy."
I'll be sipping a brandy, waiting. . . ready to corner you in debate, yell louder than you can scream, scare you, lock you in your room, and to finally. . . break you of your shrewness.
Rather than any woman being banned from this forum in the future, I personally think they should just be required a few days with me.
There is a word which can be used to either describe someone who has a nasty temper or someone who is female. I'd say it has become a classic female identifying feature.
I hope that you see that it goes the other way as well. Substitute "men" for "women" and vice versa in your quote above (and maybe "jerk" or "d!ck" for "shrew").
Honestly, I think it is unbecoming of either sex to have an explosive temper.
I don't think overt expressions of violent anger is something women are programmed to do. Gangbanger girls, sure. But otherwise women are programmed for a long war of emotional and psychological torture. Being mad implies getting over it. Women don't 'get over it'. It just goes underground and gets darker and dirtier.
My subconscious picked up on another woman's smell on my husband. A carnal smell.
It was well after the glass throwing that I discovered he'd been cheating and lying and accusing me of it and not believing me when I told him I hadn't been. I then asked to be taken to a psych intake because I felt that something was terribly wrong with me. Up didn't seem like up and down didn't seem like down. I doubted myself. My husband seemed so sincere in his version of the truth, and he was settling in nicely after making an argument about pizza ordering and delivery and wanting to sit down and watch a man movie that was violent rather then discuss my fears with him. Take someone's reality away systematically and trap them at home economically and with children and see how long they can go without blowing. I don't blow at people, I blow at objects. It's saner.
FWIW I was in therapy for a year and the bottom line was no psychosis, only sanity. Scanner you can take it or leave it. I am taking it and leaving my husband.
Rachel maddow, Rosie? ickth!!!!! I hope she dont look like them!
Personally I like when women get *****y and angry it usually meas they need some richard.
I would be happy with any kind of attention from my wife but all she talks about is her job:sleeping:
That would explain why, when I was angry and bitc&ing and throwing stuff in the bedroom that one time (not angry at hubby...but at someone at work) while I was getting changed, he got all turned on? I thought that was rather odd...
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