Not necessarily.
If it’s bad because of a lack of experience, technique, practice, familiarity with each other‘s preferences- sure.
If it’s bad because of a lack of motivation, interest, attraction - not so much.
It has been said that sex is 10% of marriage when you have it, and 90% of marriage when you don't.
In my own mind, sex is 100% of marriage. No sex = no marriage. I can have a friend without benefits (who supports herself) for 1/10 of the money this damn farce of a marriage costs me. I can take out my friend to wonderful dinners, go on excursions, go to the symphony, attend church....we will have done nothing sinful or immoral....... and, guess what? I can have all my clothes professionally cleaned, laundered, pressed, and have a houskeeper come in twice a month for another 1/10 of the money. If there were no stupid cats and animals in here, my cleaning would be minimal. I could run my dishwasher once a week because I would take two meals every day out.
The other large advantage to a FWoB is that I can throw my socks on the floor and put them in the hamper in the morning when I am not dog-tired.
Without a doubt, I would choose a starfish screw once a week over no sex.
I can't honestly answer the question because am not sure what "bad" sex would be. Maybe "starfish"? I don't believe have ever had bad sex. For sure, all of the sex have had with wife would classify as excellent and always preferred to none.
Maybe my combat Marine Dad knew what was "bad" as he had much wider experience with women than me. But he would always say 'Even bad sex is pretty damned wonderful'.
Enthusiasm and desire are what makes it. Sex can be terrible (btdt), but if it's with an inexperienced or unskilled partner that is eager and enthusiastic that stuff works out in the end.
It's the "gun to the head, let me get this over with" crap that is the absolute worst. Better to beat off with a leather work glove dry than do anything in that realm.
Enthusiasm and desire are what makes it. Sex can be terrible (btdt), but if it's with an inexperienced or unskilled partner that is eager and enthusiastic that stuff works out in the end.
It's the "gun to the head, let me get this over with" crap that is the absolute worst. Better to beat off with a leather work glove dry than do anything in that realm.
Yeah I think most men are gonna take bad sex over no sex because we are almost guaranteed to get ours at least. A lot of men who aren't so experienced probably don't even know what bad sex is.
NO, I CAN hardly wait for this from the man I'm hoping comes along next. hoping it's the one I'm talking to now but? He's FAR FAR away and I have no idea. Fingers crossed and prayers prayed!
ive had bad sex. years ago i had a gf that would just throw off all her clothes and insist f______me! now i need foreplay and some tenderness leading up to the act.
i had trouble keeping it up for her with her giving insistent commands from the bed. however once i had it in her, she shrieked and claimed it hurt. so i had to finish her off by hand.
the one time i completed the act to completion, she complained all day that i 'tore her up'.
well that was bad sex. was it better than no sex? yeah, it was.
Sex can be bad for either partner, even if both have orgasms.
There are lots of ways sex can be bad, in addition to physical issues women are especially vulnerable to.
I don’t know what “most men” who have had “bad sex” have experienced. I’m not sure what as meant by “just wanting a different experience.” Certainly I’ve had bad sexual experiences that were bad enough emotionally that I’d gladly trade for some other kind of bad.
It’s never bad! If my wife delays or denies my orgasm, I am incredibly uninhibited and willing to promise EVERYTHING. I lose a little steam post orgasm and chicken out. So….if she wants me to keep my silly wild promises, deny me release until I keep the promises. She knows all my curious secrets!
Much rather have no sex than bad sex. I keep telling myself not to try anymore and I go and initiate it the other night. It was the same as usual except she wouldn’t kiss me, it was the same starfish position, and the look on her face made me feel like I was assaulting her. It was the usual hurry it up. I’d just much rather take matters into my own hands than do that.
I am finding it VERY difficult to say that I would rather have NO sex instead of bad sex. For one thing, I don't understand the definition of "bad"....do you mean painful, humiliating, demeaning...? YES, I would never choose sex like that, I wouldn't allow a man who treated me that way to touch me at all, never mind have my body for his pleasure.
But do you mean sex where he seems like he's bored and only there because of his "duty" or to keep me from leaving...? That wasn't fun or satisfying at all, but I always had HOPE that it was going to change and that I would find the magic formula that would spark his interest in me. I put up with that for over a decade (as it got progressively worse) because I craved that intimacy with him, even if it was tiny little crumbs...I couldn't imagine having no sex instead...that seemed even worse!
So I cannot really say that I would choose no sex over that, because I never refused him and I looked forward to having sex with him every time, just wishing it was going to be different each time. I guess maybe "bad sex" AND "no sex" are the same to me. However, I have NO intention of putting up with either of those again at all, in any way, ever ever ever.
For ME, sex is the only reason to be in a relationship at all, and be monogamous. So I will take it even further than just choosing NO sex...I would choose NO RELATIONSHIP if all it offered was "bad sex" OR "no sex".
I’d take no sex over bad sex. Best I’ve had is ok sex but most has been bad.
Depressed. My husband just jacked off in the shower while I laid in the bed and masturbated. We’re both horny at the same time but can’t bother having sex with each other?
Depressed. My husband just jacked off in the shower while I laid in the bed and masturbated. We’re both horny at the same time but can’t bother having sex with each other?
She has said more than once that he doesn't light her fire. Masturbating while thinking about having a celebrity do her gets her off in short order. She has trouble getting off with her husband so sex with him is really bad. And he knows full well how she feels.
No I wasn’t upset at him for not wanting to have sex with me. I mean yes I want to be desired and it’s been a long time since I’ve felt that way. Do I get why he doesn’t desire me? Oh yes I do. I hate myself. He hates himself. We’re in a really bad place individually and as a couple. I’m upset about a lot of it, mainly my own mistakes and shortcomings.
A person that had never had anything but bad sex could think it was all a waste of time. But let the right body with the right skill set arrive and give them a fantastic time, their attitude will totally change. And they will thirst for more.
I know of a guy just like this, he is gods gift to women , sadly guys like this have been out with Mary, and Lesa and Susie and everybody
been gods gift he gets around a lot and women Q up for him ,
he knows how to charm the birds off the trees and when he has them charmed he knows how when and what he need to do ,
one woman said about him that he kissed her and just with the stroke of his hand she had the fastest O ever so fast that she felt like a 16 year old boy with premature ejaculation , she said he should open a school or clinic for men that are so bad they think they have a stone barker, and women that have a hard time getting to the end .
I think sex is not talked about in the right way to young people , even today in the schools sex ed has little to do with sex ed
Most men resort to porn as sex ed and many girls learn from the guys that think they know all from the porn . coupled with the fact that up bringing has thought kids with centuries that sex is dirty,
A lot of the words used around sex are looked on as swore words , if I USE ANY HERE THEY EVEN GET BLANKED because they offend
from an early age we say " my privet part " or we give it a list of names that are far from the right name ,
Not to talk of the English speaking world where most English speakers use the wrong word for the woman's privet area the vagina instead of Vulva
From tenting to ballooning, here is the ultimate guide to what your vagina can do.
helloclue.com
not only men make this mistake but many Vulva owners all so
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