Ok so I am in a much less than lovely long term marriage that I had no intention of leaving, still wobbling on that one but it is getting much worse because of his behavior. My cyber cheating has stopped because of fear on both of our parts, only to add to my depression because I really care for the person that I had only reconnected with from my past. But my H has behaviors that have just gotten worse and worse, he is rude, mean, antisocial, bossy. My family cannot understand why I am still here, even his brother can't. His brother is the only person who really gets to see the real him from the outside. Everyone else thinks that he is a saint, so if I walk away I will be the villian... All of our friends just can't see past that facade that he puts up, he works so much that he does not have to fake it much. I just worry that it is really beginning to hurt out kids now, because he is treating them the way he treats me at times. Otherwise he villifies me in front of them, either way it is awful. But do I take them from their warm home and change the only thing they have ever known. I am scared because I am seeing signs of depression in my oldest child and she almost hides from him, I know he is too hard on her and is awful to her about her weight. So what do I do, Yes I cyber cheated, I admit that, I was wrong, I am very very alone in my life but do I stay for a stable home for my children or do I change their whole life?