That's pretty good if you can get it to work. I was unsuccessful at a similar attempt. And my ideas were just things like sex in the backyard, going to a topless beach or watching an erotic movie together. No such luck.
I still think the way you have approached these things with her, haven't done you any favours. And the erotic movie watching proposal was to share the activity in a very passive and unappealing manner.
If you want to go to a topless beach with her, get in the car with her and just take her there. If you want to do sex in your backyard or while out and about, give it a go in the moment after you have got her going. There's lots of things that are better shared by getting on with trying them in the moment when your partner is aroused. The items that are probably best prefaced with discussions are things like sharing sex with others, doing anal sex, having your partner wear nipple clamps, golden showers.
I realize my situation and she is not going to change. She was married long term before our marriage so she's set in her ways. I just have to decide if going without is worth staying or not??? Not an easy decision.
That said considering the picture you have shared.
51 year old male on second marriage. First one lasted 20 years and then ex bailed out on me for another guy. So new wife of 5 years is great but a few hangups have bothered me. She was all into sex when we first married and dated and now she's not.
Next issue is she doesn't work. Said she can't find a job but her lack of work is killing us financially. I work around 50 hrs a week and make decent money but if she was working, we could really be making a huge amount in our future savings. My goal is to retire by 60 and travel as I love going places.
- She worked when we met and got married. She got let go and then hasn't worked since. She has a masters degree so to me finding a job should be easy for her.
- She was into sex and alot of things when we got married. Oral, anal, you name it. Now its just missionary to get "get it done".
- She may be depressed as she has put on weight and just enjoys sitting around alot and goes to bed early (8 or 9 pm) each night
The longer you stay married to her, the deeper the hole you will find yourself in. Which will make it even harder to get out without bleeding plenty.
So despite divorce not being a fun activity, if I were you I'd be choosing that path as soon as possible, since waiting will only make it much worse for you.