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Hello all, I have not written on here since my first separation. But all your advice before helped me out and i really hope i can get some insight on my current situation. I know i am not the only person in the world this has happened to and i really hope i can talk to many about their experiences and advice on this... Here is goes...
My husband and i split 2 1/2 years ago. We have had our "lets get back together" moments but none were really sincere. Till now. We sat down finally and finally had a long conversation about our future whether it was with each other or not. We both decided we had grown and and it was time to fix our marriage and piece our family back together.( we married way too young and immaturely) So this is where we are, together.. piecing it together...one problem...
When he left me, he left for another woman. Someone from his past. A year ago, he told me she was pregnant and that he was completely upset that it happened. But that there was nothing he could do but accept he had a child on the way, which of course devastated me...When he asked me about him coming home, he asked if i could accept the fact i would have a step daughter and that i would help him raise her as my own, as our own but having his ex still in our lives for the sole purpose of the baby. Nothing else.. It was a hard decision bc i feel i should have just walked but i love this man and i have brought myself to realize that i can help raise her together with him.
What i am asking is..... Has anyone had this type of thing happen? How did you handle this? How hard is it? I know i dont want to walk but that baby did nothing wrong and it is not her fault by any means that this happened. I am a forgiving person, and believe i can get passed this, just need a lil advice/help along the way.
Thank you for listening and if you have had this situation before or have this situation, please help me? Even if you just have advice, please? Thank you
My husband and i split 2 1/2 years ago. We have had our "lets get back together" moments but none were really sincere. Till now. We sat down finally and finally had a long conversation about our future whether it was with each other or not. We both decided we had grown and and it was time to fix our marriage and piece our family back together.( we married way too young and immaturely) So this is where we are, together.. piecing it together...one problem...
When he left me, he left for another woman. Someone from his past. A year ago, he told me she was pregnant and that he was completely upset that it happened. But that there was nothing he could do but accept he had a child on the way, which of course devastated me...When he asked me about him coming home, he asked if i could accept the fact i would have a step daughter and that i would help him raise her as my own, as our own but having his ex still in our lives for the sole purpose of the baby. Nothing else.. It was a hard decision bc i feel i should have just walked but i love this man and i have brought myself to realize that i can help raise her together with him.
What i am asking is..... Has anyone had this type of thing happen? How did you handle this? How hard is it? I know i dont want to walk but that baby did nothing wrong and it is not her fault by any means that this happened. I am a forgiving person, and believe i can get passed this, just need a lil advice/help along the way.
Thank you for listening and if you have had this situation before or have this situation, please help me? Even if you just have advice, please? Thank you