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Attracted to Coworker

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For the past few months I’ve developed an attraction to my coworker. We are both teachers. I’m married. She’s not. I haven’t acted on this attraction, but it’s there. We’ve both acknowledged it and that’s as far as it’s gone.
I don’t want to have an affair, I love my husband very much. But this attraction is something I can’t explain. It’s stronger than I am and I need some help dealing with this. Do I tell my husband? Do I quit my job? It’s the middle of the year that not as easy as it sounds walking out on a classroom of students. Any advice is welcome. Thanks.
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So he hit you in a one-off event when he was told his wife was attracted to another person, told the person……..
My thoughts are that a slap is one thing, a punch is another.
I am kind of surprised that she was honest and told her husband and told him she had cut all contact and he reacted by hitting her. I’d have thought he’d be hurt deeply and in shock, but wouldn’t have reacted with violence. But everyone is different.
It’s up to OP if she feels this is something to go to the police for, or if she feels her husband wouldn’t do that again. I personally think going to the police over a one-off event in a high stress situation and she doesn’t feel in danger, is the thing to do. But if she plans on divorcing him I suppose it would. If she goes to the police and files domestic abuse charges, she is likely to get papers filed on her. I would.
There is no way I’d hit a woman, but getting told you’ve been cheated on is a rough emotional ride. There’s no telling how someone will react. A person may not even know how they’ll react

OP, what are your plans from here? What has been your husband’s demeanor since the incident?

I think you did right telling him OP. Very sorry you got hit over it.
Sorry but even if you have been told your spouse cheated ( which she hasn't)you don't use violence.

Op do you have marks or bruises? If so take photos.
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Sorry but even if you have been told your spouse cheated ( which she hasn't)you don't use violence.

Op do you have marks or bruises? If so take photos.
I thought it was clear that I agree…….
I thought it was clear that I agree…….
You seemed to be semi excusing it and implying that a slap wasnt as bad as a hit.
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your hubby's not much of a man imho OP. Retired cop eh? Wonder how many skeletons in his closet? I'm willing to bet you're not the first one he's struck.
has the other woman discussed an attraction to you? She may not share the interest you have in her.
has the other woman discussed an attraction to you? She may not share the interest you have in her.

This is in her OP:

haven’t acted on this attraction, but it’s there. We’ve both acknowledged it and that’s as far as it’s gone.
Admitting that she feels the same didn’t help me at all.
So, there's your answer. The other teacher may also be a lesbian or into women too.
This is in her OP:





So, there's your answer. The other teacher may also be a lesbian or into women too.
Thanks. how’d I miss that?! Explains much.
This is in her OP:

So, there's your answer. The other teacher may also be a lesbian or into women too.
OP sounds too much like a guy.
Zombie thread. Where is that darn cat!!!
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Unfortunately as usual, the domestic violence on her has continued, as she says in a later thread that he's brutalizing her during sex. She already thinks it's because of her confession. Except it's really not. It's because he enjoys it.
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Unfortunately as usual, the domestic violence on her has continued, as she says in a later thread that he's brutalizing her during sex. She already thinks it's because of her confession. Except it's really not. It's because he enjoys it.
Brutalizing?
Brutalizing?
Yes, in a previous post she said: "folding me up like a lawn chair and pounding away", among other things. She has told him she doesn't like it and he stops. Then drifts right back into it. He has also physically struck her. The guys sound like a real POS.
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Lately, my husband is all about rough sex. I don't mind roughness from time to time, but folding me up like a lawn chair and pounding away is not very romantic. We’ve talked about it. He tries to change it up he says. I’ve given my feelings on this matter. He will make adjustments and be less dominant, but then within a little while it’s like he’s bored and his dominant side shines through and we’re back to rough sex again. Any suggestions?
This is the entire original post on it.

I wouldn’t call it “brutalizing” but it is more often then EB wants.
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This thread is several months old. I don’t teach with this coworker any longer and I had already cut off all contacts with her. The rough sex thread is a completely separate post.
Having said that, I am currently separated from my husband and have filed for a divorce.
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Glad you are moving forward in a healthy way. Good luck with the divorce.
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