[DownByTheRiver]

Is this your first attraction to a woman or have you had them before and ultimately chose your husband over women?

I think you should have a stronger self-discipline than to have to quit your job over this. If as you say it's out in the open between you two then I think you need to tell her you're not going to interact with her anymore than you absolutely have to and have decided not to go down that path. Then you just do it.

Does your husband know already that you are bi or at least have had some passing attraction to women whether you acted on it or not?

 

[DownByTheRiver]

Yes my husband knows. I was married to a woman before I was married to him.

Well then I just think you need to realize that you are in full control of yourself and exercise your self-discipline and put an end to it with her. Anything else is just going to make a big mess. We all get attraction to other people sometimes but that certainly doesn't mean we have to act on it. You just make yourself stop dwelling on it and change your focus.

 

[DownByTheRiver]

This is a first time. He can have anger issues. Which is why I was on the fence about telling him, but I know I did the right thing in telling him.
He’s a former cop, retired from the force and is now the county coroner. Makes reporting him and anything being done not so easy in a small town.

Hey, good cops don't like bad cops, so report his abuse and take your chances. But it's vital you make a written report that they can't ignore. You can't just tell them but refuse to fill out a report or let them talk you out of it. And you should take a photo immediately of the red mark a hit will leave. Nothing much will happen the first incident, but it might just stop him from ever doing it again. Because once you let that happen, there is more to come once they know you don't do anything about it.

 

[DownByTheRiver]

Unfortunately as usual, the domestic violence on her has continued, as she says in a later thread that he's brutalizing her during sex. She already thinks it's because of her confession. Except it's really not. It's because he enjoys it.