I'm at the point where i've decided i'm not going to be held over the bridge waiting for her to let go of the rope. For the past 2 weeks all i've heard is i'm trying to flip the switch but I can't seem to shake seeing you as just friends... Now this is from a woman who I had to practically beg to have a life outside of me at one point. Now I get, she's angry about earlier things in our marriage and she's having a hard time moving forward. When we 1st got together we both discussed no kids, she changed her mind and I was furious so we've fought for the past few months. We'll long story short I said we could reconsider because I have kids from a previous marriage and she's great to them so I didn't think it was fair to deprieve her of her own(I realize change is constant). Well that still didn't do it she's "unhappy" but doesn't want me to leave she wants time to work through her feelings, well here's the kicker she doesn't know if she wants to stay or go. I've even got the thought of being with 1 person for the rest of her life is suffocating to her. So here's where I am, I love her ofcourse and I want to be with her (not need) but is it worth the turmoil right now... Just really want to make the right decision i've gone through one D and when I did it this time I knew in my heart it would be different yet here I am again totally different woman same story...
Any advice is greatly appreciated. I know all the typical stuff i.e. affair, i've checked everything known to man haven't seen anything, however, I do feel if she's not having a physical affair, I feel there is def some emotional attachment somewhere just can't put my finger on it. It's weird though because she wants live day to day like nothing is going on, and in counseling I get totally hit with stuff so old I forgot all about it! But i'm really thinking I should just leave ASAP!!
Any advice is greatly appreciated. I know all the typical stuff i.e. affair, i've checked everything known to man haven't seen anything, however, I do feel if she's not having a physical affair, I feel there is def some emotional attachment somewhere just can't put my finger on it. It's weird though because she wants live day to day like nothing is going on, and in counseling I get totally hit with stuff so old I forgot all about it! But i'm really thinking I should just leave ASAP!!