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We have a nearly 24 yo son. He has aspergers, reasonably high functioning in that meeting him casually you would not know there is a problem, but over time, you would think he was 'different' as he will not talk to people at any length unless it is about one of his current or past obsessions, then he will talk non-stop just spouting facts.
The issue we have is between my h & myself as to how we handle him. It is one of last remaining contentious issues we have not ironed out.
I tend to excuse his behaviour more becase he is aspie, my h expects him to act like a 'normal person. H as just saying ds cannot make life decisions without someone doing it for him. Not entirely true, ds can make poor choices with no help. He does not seem to see the long term consequences of the choices he makes. H keeps saying (to me, not to our son) that he should be more like our other 2 boys (22 & 20), but I say he never will be.
DS has very poor social skills & is uncomfortable around people he has not known most of his life. Thus he works for his grandmother, but is not happy in the role he has there. He did have a job there he liked, but his aunt (H's sister) came & took it over & forced ds out into a different section, away from his beloved computers.
If anybody has a grown aspie child, who has significant aspie symptoms, is there any hope for them?
The issue we have is between my h & myself as to how we handle him. It is one of last remaining contentious issues we have not ironed out.
I tend to excuse his behaviour more becase he is aspie, my h expects him to act like a 'normal person. H as just saying ds cannot make life decisions without someone doing it for him. Not entirely true, ds can make poor choices with no help. He does not seem to see the long term consequences of the choices he makes. H keeps saying (to me, not to our son) that he should be more like our other 2 boys (22 & 20), but I say he never will be.
DS has very poor social skills & is uncomfortable around people he has not known most of his life. Thus he works for his grandmother, but is not happy in the role he has there. He did have a job there he liked, but his aunt (H's sister) came & took it over & forced ds out into a different section, away from his beloved computers.
If anybody has a grown aspie child, who has significant aspie symptoms, is there any hope for them?