And you're going to marry this guy because?Interesting that VD is a problem for you guys... it's my fiance's b-day that's a problem for me. In the early days, I made an effort for his b-day by preparing a menu, shopping for the food; getting the exact cake that he wanted; preparing it at his place the Sat night immediately after his actual b-day. Fortunately, I sent him e-mails asking him what he preferred.......
Fast forward to our D-Day, where he used the excuse that he was dating that other woman (treating a sh!t load better that other woman he kept trying to pass off as just a friend) because he said he didn't know how I felt about him. I said, really, all that I did for your b-day means nothing to you now. He asked me, What DID you do for my birthday? I told him to review his e-mails to remind himself.
That was also part of the discussion in which he told that his "friend" went "all out for his birthday. Oh really, I said, Did you and she do something within the week of your birthday. He said, yes, of course. Little did he know that I was looking at an FB PM string between him and her that made it clear that they did not see each each until 2 weeks after his birthday. And also that he made dinner reservations to see her. And that's what he dressed as "her" making and effort. I said, in that e-mail string there is no mention of your b-day there.
Yes, he said, but when she showed up she offered to pay for dinner and gave me a b-day card. Months later I asked to see this card and he admitted that she never gave him one. Since we had this discussion by e-mail, I told him I have it in writing that you said she gave you one.
I do ask myself will I ever be comfortable doing something for his b-day again.
I like that,I'm not going to give the POS one thought on V day,well I might a little knowing what I did to him.We celebrate it, usually he takes me out to dinner. This year the venue is a surprise
Valentines was never a trigger for me. Even when he was in the midst of cheating, he always made sure I was well taken care of on V day.
The trigger days do get better every year, I am finding.