So I had a long talkl with the wife...
She wants to "deal with issues" and so I try. When I tell her what I have issue with... She gets angry and "why are you blaming it all on me?"
The fact is, she doesn't have any faith in me doing anything. She claims she has anxiety about a few things. Most of us would say they're OCD matters. Like, just coming unglued because I had a stack of boxes to cut up and go in the recycler bin. Seriously, it just totally unnerves her, I guess. And, she wants, in her words "I want things to change". And yet, about all it means is "I want you to make more money, I want the kids to make money, and I want someone to never make any messes".
I tried to get across that somehow, I need to have how she trods all over me stopped, and all she did was tell me that was stupid, because "I can't control you".
Even though I explained it's about how I have passively let her basically just do whatever she wanted to avoid any confrontation in the past, she just rejected that notion like it's dumb.
So, I don't know what to do. I have no energy, no money, no will for dealing with this stuff right now. And really, I get the "You can hang around if you're going to make my life good" impression. I have to deal with two deadly serious health problems right now, and both are pretty much terribly exaggerated by stress.
Yet, she claims I don't talk about things ( true ), and that's why she's mad at me. But, when I do, then she really gets mad. Which is why I don't want to talk about things.
I guess I'm just screwed.
She wants to "deal with issues" and so I try. When I tell her what I have issue with... She gets angry and "why are you blaming it all on me?"
The fact is, she doesn't have any faith in me doing anything. She claims she has anxiety about a few things. Most of us would say they're OCD matters. Like, just coming unglued because I had a stack of boxes to cut up and go in the recycler bin. Seriously, it just totally unnerves her, I guess. And, she wants, in her words "I want things to change". And yet, about all it means is "I want you to make more money, I want the kids to make money, and I want someone to never make any messes".
I tried to get across that somehow, I need to have how she trods all over me stopped, and all she did was tell me that was stupid, because "I can't control you".
Even though I explained it's about how I have passively let her basically just do whatever she wanted to avoid any confrontation in the past, she just rejected that notion like it's dumb.
So, I don't know what to do. I have no energy, no money, no will for dealing with this stuff right now. And really, I get the "You can hang around if you're going to make my life good" impression. I have to deal with two deadly serious health problems right now, and both are pretty much terribly exaggerated by stress.
Yet, she claims I don't talk about things ( true ), and that's why she's mad at me. But, when I do, then she really gets mad. Which is why I don't want to talk about things.
I guess I'm just screwed.