Eh, not me. It's the highest form of praise. As long as they don't go overboard.I think you generally find your spouse/SO attractive, but for some reason, if someone else finds them so, it bothers you...especially if they SHOW they are attracted to your SO/spouse. I think it's one of the worst forms of disrespect. But you're definitely on to something there OP.
I don't know who said it, but exactly the opposite is true. Monogamy is set up entirely for the benefit of men. Without it, a few men would have all the women, and most men would be mateless. No man would know who his children were. A woman, on the other hand, doesn't need monogamy - she can always find a man, and she always knows which children are genuinely hers.It also said that monogamy doesn't benefit men.
The only thing that would say women are attracted to cheaters and that would encourage men to cheat would be some kind of wacky Pick Up Artist site devoted to nerdy 14 year olds.It said that women are attracted to promiscuous men and encouraged cheating because a lack of cheating would signal that the man lacks options. It also said that monogamy doesn't benefit men.
Only somewhat. Our base instincts are still the same as that of a Chimpanzee and other apes.You know, we did move on since the time when we were climbing the trees.....
No it didn't.Did it say WHY monogamy doesn't benefit men specifically...?
Whatever this is--an article, a study, whatever--it is a load of bovine excrement.It said that women are attracted to promiscuous men and encouraged cheating because a lack of cheating would signal that the man lacks options. It also said that monogamy doesn't benefit men.
And it is not the same for men?Based on everything I’ve read and experienced- Yes, women are more attracted to men that other women find attractive, men with options. In general, most women want the most attractive (and I don’t mean strictly physical) man they can get. I don’t think most women actually want to be cheated on, but they want a man who is desirable enough that he could but chooses not to. No woman wants to be stuck with a man that no one else wants.
Oh that's a mind-eff.Well eventually he had surgery and started to lose weight, and lo and behold she started cooking lots of crap. He continued to lose weight and he's getting to the point where other women are looking and I don't think she likes that.
He hasn't given any reason to think he's untrustworthy and at least on the surface is completely devoted to her. And I think she genuinely loves him and is glad his health is better, but also struggles with the thought of him having options.
We'll see how it goes.....I hope they come out on top.
I get you, butI meant the ones who do go overboard. There's one woman (who is married btw) who seems to be very interested in my husband, she goes out of her way to undermine me, exclude me, and implies she doesn't understand why he's attracted to me...lol. She's no threat to me whatsoever, I actually find it comical, but blatant disrespect.Eh, not me. It's the highest form of praise. As long as they don't go overboard.
There are lists that talk about female attractiveness. But not many studies based on a couple pages of google search results. Apparently, guys like a little bit of crazy. I think I would interpret it as an internal "if she sometimes makes questionable decisions, maybe she'll make some of those with me". For women it is more about what they do like smile, be friendly, show curves, and be kind and less peer influence.And it is not the same for men?
This is the best answer to that "research". !The only thing that would say women are attracted to cheaters and that would encourage men to cheat would be some kind of wacky Pick Up Artist site devoted to nerdy 14 year olds.
Let's not confuse two different principles here. Yes, multiple women being attracted to a man will make that man appear of higher status and value than a man with no women attracted to him.
There is also the concept of "pre-selection" in that if an attractive woman of high status likes a man, that will make other women more accepting of him and less suspicious of him.
From my own personal experience, there have been times that once I got a GF, women seemed to come out of the woodwork with interest. I think many men have experienced that. Pre-selection is actually a pretty powerful force.
But let's not confuse that with promiscuity or especially cheating.
A man that has lots of female attention and admiration but shows discipline and faithfulness and discrimination is a lot more attractive to women than a man who hooks up with everyone he has an opportunity with, especially if it is cheating.
In other words, a man that has lots of options and opportunities but chooses to remain faithful is a lot more desirable than a man with the same number of options and opportunities but hooks up with them all.
Options and opportunities + intentional restraint is usually more attractive than options and opportunities and capitalizing on all those options, especially if it involves cheating.
If having sex with more people is your standard of "success" then the serial rapist would be at the top of the food chain.One thing that is true about all cheaters, they are cheating on someone with someone else. That means they have at least twice the success of a monogamist.
The difference is that a man is sexually attracted to women primarily by their physical appearance; the woman's social status isn't very important.But frankly isn't this the same for men? Trophy wife, anyone?