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Or become celibate. :D

Which I was during 20 years of marriage anyway, but now it's on my own terms.

What I am suggesting is that you need to be aware of the math problem that creates, and either accept it, find a way to influence the math, or soften your expectations.
 

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What I see is a lot of Christian women who expect the Christian man to come in the "Christian Bale" package. Faith matters according to the Bible. Bank account and squareness of jaw don't. I know quite a few really good, hard-working single Christian men. The problem is, they aren't going to be on the cover of GQ, and they aren't going to pull in 100K. Some of them are stereotypically average or a little below average looking, some are blue collar with no degree, they aren't necessarily suave, though they are good and kind and finny and hard-working. And these aren't "beta boys" either (I hate that term). They are masculine men in a positive way IMO.

BUt too many women want the "godly man" to also look like the god Adonis. They need to check their priorities. Plus, if they are in their 20's they don;t really KNOW what they are getting in looks and shape anyway.

My husband is HOT. I mean objectively hot. I married above my league lol. Broad shoulders, fit but not bulgy, nice scruff, and those eyes.....

Wait, what were we talking about? :D

But in high school and in his 20's he was very scrawny with a pornstashe. lol

So the women who dismiss the 25 year old nerd might be shocked when he turns into Jensen Ackles somewhere in his 4os lol
While I agree with this to a point, the slippery slope potentially leads to settling...which leads us to so many horror stories on this forum.

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What I see is a lot of Christian women who expect the Christian man to come in the "Christian Bale" package. Faith matters according to the Bible. Bank account and squareness of jaw don't. I know quite a few really good, hard-working single Christian men. The problem is, they aren't going to be on the cover of GQ, and they aren't going to pull in 100K. Some of them are stereotypically average or a little below average looking, some are blue collar with no degree, they aren't necessarily suave, though they are good and kind and finny and hard-working. And these aren't "beta boys" either (I hate that term). They are masculine men in a positive way IMO.

BUt too many women want the "godly man" to also look like the god Adonis. They need to check their priorities. Plus, if they are in their 20's they don;t really KNOW what they are getting in looks and shape anyway.

My husband is HOT. I mean objectively hot. I married above my league lol. Broad shoulders, fit but not bulgy, nice scruff, and those eyes.....

Wait, what were we talking about? <a href="http://talkaboutmarriage.com/images/smilies/biggrin.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Big Grin" >:)</a>

But in high school and in his 20's he was very scrawny with a pornstashe. lol

So the women who dismiss the 25 year old nerd might be shocked when he turns into Jensen Ackles somewhere in his 4os lol
While I agree with this to a point, the slippery slope potentially leads to settling...which leads us to so many horror stories on this forum.

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Settling is a mindset. Even if I wanted a CPA with brown hair, I could blissful and content with a blond welder if I choose to. And the blond welder would only feel like plan B if he chose to.
 

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This is just silly. Good grief. Gay marriage doesn't affect me, and women who want Christian husbands isn't hurting anyone here.

Let it go lol
 

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What I see is a lot of Christian women who expect the Christian man to come in the "Christian Bale" package. Faith matters according to the Bible. Bank account and squareness of jaw don't. I know quite a few really good, hard-working single Christian men. The problem is, they aren't going to be on the cover of GQ, and they aren't going to pull in 100K. Some of them are stereotypically average or a little below average looking, some are blue collar with no degree, they aren't necessarily suave, though they are good and kind and finny and hard-working. And these aren't "beta boys" either (I hate that term). They are masculine men in a positive way IMO.

BUt too many women want the "godly man" to also look like the god Adonis. They need to check their priorities. Plus, if they are in their 20's they don;t really KNOW what they are getting in looks and shape anyway.
In all fairness, I think this is less a "Christian Woman" issue and more a social issue and it affects both women and men equally. For example, I see just as many Christian men looking for the Christian woman built like barbie, with the face of a sweet innocent girl next door, the selflessness of Mother Teresa, and the sex drive of a nyphomaniac.....but only for them. :rolleyes: Sadly these are the people (men/women) who end up with deeply emotionally disturbed people.
 

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In all fairness, I think this is less a "Christian Woman" issue and more a social issue and it affects both women and men equally. For example, I see just as many Christian men looking for the Christian woman built like barbie, with the face of a sweet innocent girl next door, the selflessness of Mother Teresa, and the sex drive of a nyphomaniac.....but only for them. :rolleyes: Sadly these are the people (men/women) who end up with deeply emotionally disturbed people.



A slight tweak: who end up with/as deeply emotionally disturbed people. It is true that like attracts like. Or, some would say that water seeks its own level.
 

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Perhaps these women who are limiting themselves to Christian men should broaden their horizons. Most of the studies that I've read indicate that secular and religious people lead remarkably similar lives in that they all suffer from the same failings at pretty much the same rates. Hell, atheists commit crimes are rates lower than their representation in society.

Operationally, it doesn't seem that there is much real difference between the two except for one core belief. What is that selectivity buying you?
It's buying the agreement on what to do on Sunday mornings ..... or whenever one's Sabbath is.
 

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In all fairness, I think this is less a "Christian Woman" issue and more a social issue and it affects both women and men equally. For example, I see just as many Christian men looking for the Christian woman built like barbie, with the face of a sweet innocent girl next door, the selflessness of Mother Teresa, and the sex drive of a nyphomaniac.....but only for them. :rolleyes: Sadly these are the people (men/women) who end up with deeply emotionally disturbed people.

Ya, it’s weird. I’ve talked to some guys that want to marry a virgin and yet end up with a sex maniac.

Contradictory expectations are hard and totally unfair. I can see how women get into a no-win scenario, just like men do.
 

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What a wonderful combination for a wife. A virgin and a sex maniac. When I was looking for a wife (only a christian wife) I prayed for a girl in our church for God to find her a husband. Without me knowing she fell in love with me and in the end the pastor had to reveal it to me. She is now my wife. I wouldn't call her a sex maniac as I always initiate but she always responds once it starts.
 

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In all fairness, I think this is less a "Christian Woman" issue and more a social issue and it affects both women and men equally. For example, I see just as many Christian men looking for the Christian woman built like barbie, with the face of a sweet innocent girl next door, the selflessness of Mother Teresa, and the sex drive of a nyphomaniac.....but only for them. :rolleyes: Sadly these are the people (men/women) who end up with deeply emotionally disturbed people.
There are lots of Christians who married as virgins who REALLY like sex. :wink2:
 
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