I have been reviewing and reading all the information about no contact and 180 and such and I have come to the conclusion that if a spouse really needs to be watched over and no contact letters need to be sent and emails have to be watched - is it really worth being in a relationship with this person? It undermines the whole fabric of a relationship - trust! If you can't trust the one you are with and need to watch over them - how much are they worth to your relationship? Might as well let them go. It is like trying to keep a naughty child from misbehaving - you can't and it isn't worth it.