Had any of the men here gone into a serious relationship because they were in love despite their partner's lack of sex appeal (after all, it's drilled into our heads that infatuation fades, but love stays)? For how many years have you sustained your relationships?
Most posters here preach that if you're not sexually attracted to your spouse, it's your responsibility to get out of the way so the spouse could find someone who would be attracted to them. Not sure how that squares with reality: after all, a high percentage of fat bald men remain married for decades.
Clarification: You wouldn't have dated your spouse without the falling in love; and definitely wouldn't have dated just for the sex.
Update: PLEASE, only respond if you have experience to contribute.
Most posters here preach that if you're not sexually attracted to your spouse, it's your responsibility to get out of the way so the spouse could find someone who would be attracted to them. Not sure how that squares with reality: after all, a high percentage of fat bald men remain married for decades.
Clarification: You wouldn't have dated your spouse without the falling in love; and definitely wouldn't have dated just for the sex.
Update: PLEASE, only respond if you have experience to contribute.