I'm a week into it, and don't think I'm as sad as I "should" be. I think the reason is that I've known our marriage was over for a long time now (3 years or so), and after the initial shock of saying the word "divorce", I feel as if I'm aligning my life with my thoughts, emotions I've surpressed for years because I didn't believe in divorce, but believed in making it work. I have my sad moments, like hearing sappy songs and thinking about when to take off the ring. For the most part, I worry about how long it'll take and how I'll handle those 'firsts', like the upcoming holidays. STBXH probably feels the same way, because we still get along for the most part, and have started working on the details of how to split things, when he'll move out, etc. If anything, we are talking and getting along better now, so maybe we both wanted out.