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My husbands ED problems are so severe that he can't even achieve an erection so I can touch him or intercourse at all. He was supposed to have his foreman give him some Celias, but the foreman forgot. Now we (I'm) desperate!! We bought extense to try for him. It took me really convincing him for him to even buy the stuff. My husband is still saying he's thinking about going to a dr to get a prescription for Celias, but knowing my husband he won't go. My husband works in AZ and we live in CO.
He's home for a short visit and he can't get an erection at all.
Please I'm desperate....anyone have experience with extense at all.

This wife wants to touch her husbands hard penis do bad!! It's been 6 months since he was able to even cum!! We did have sex in August when I visited him, but he always lost his erection during intercourse

Please someone with experience let me know if there might be any hope with this stuff until maybe I can finally get him to go to the dr to get Celias.
This wife is afraid of never having sex again unless I cheat
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Your husband's sexual issues go deeper than a pill can provide cure for.
 

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Your husband's sexual issues go deeper than a pill can provide cure for.
They possibly do go deeper, but he wasn't always like this. I'm getting desperate....I'm tired of the feel of my vibrator..I want something real and I feel the need to feel a hard penis.....I don't want to cheat at all, but the thought is there, but I really don't have any time away from my kids alone, so I don't have the chance anyway.

He tried real hard to get himself hard the other night and I could not turn him on at all even though he was touching me, I was making noise and I was touching him. I was wearing sexy sexy underwear too and we sleep naked except underwear at night
 

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You want him to want to be with you but yet you still think of cheating.

You cheated before...and the thought is still there.

The issues are deeper than sex.
 
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You don't want to cheat now? So, did you want to cheat before?
NO I don't really want to cheat, I want him... want to plesure him and I want to feel his penis and no one elses...When I cheated before it felt dirtya nd I imagined being with my husband...so no I really don't want to cheat...I'm just so desperate because I don't get to see my husband at all. Hes 800 miles away in AZ....We don't have a house, we live at his parents...so now is the only time we have together...Today is my last day with my husband and then early tomorrow morning hes on a plane again for AZ

I'm so desperate that I look at Xrated stuff on the internet, Is that cheating too??
 

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You don't really want to cheat. that sounds like some of you does.

What I think is happening here is you are horny (understandable) but yet your husband is emotionally destroyed. He simply cannot get it up because he wants intimacy and connection and doesn't feel that way now since you cheated. You just want to have sex (and make him feel good) but you aren't seeing it from his side.
 

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You don't say what is causing the ED problem. It could by any number of things on a very long list and many of these causes of ED cannot be helped by Viagra or Cialis.

Better to find out the cause of the ED first then decide on what to do about it.
 

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I don't know what he feels since he doesn't talk about it at all. I want intimacy too. I feel the intimacy is gone too, but we have lived seperate since middle of June. He says he's under an incredible amount of stress and he doesn't want to go back to AZ. He doesn't like being by himself. He says he thinks about quiting his job after all the holidays are over so he can be with me and we can file bankrupcy. Our current bankrupcy lawyer all of a sudden won't let us file chapter 7 even though we have lost everything. Says we have to file chapter 13. So we have to find a new lawyer. We have 3 special needs kids with one very severe. My husband says he just can't catch a break. Luckily my FIL talked to me husband last night and said this is life, there is always going to be something happening. FIL also told my husband how tough it is with the 3 kids and how I'm doing a great job and all I do is take care of the kids and get them the extensive medical care they need. My FIL knows nothing about the sexual problems, but does know about how my Husband gets mad at me for taking the kids to the dr


I don't want to cheat really and I really have no time. My world is crazy stressful, but I desire that intimate feeling of pleasing my partner. My husband and I used to have wild sex. I've not changed and I still desire everything
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The fact that you say, "I don't want to cheat really and I really have no time" bothers me.

It's very wishy-washy. So the only reason you aren't cheating is because you have no time? Hm. Your husband could sense this in you.
I couldn't make love to my husband if he cheated and didn't truly address it and then said he didn't want to cheat really...because he had to time.
 

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The fact that you say, "I don't want to cheat really and I really have no time" bothers me.

It's very wishy-washy. So the only reason you aren't cheating is because you have no time? Hm. Your husband could sense this in you.
I couldn't make love to my husband if he cheated and didn't truly address it and then said he didn't want to cheat really...because he had to time.
I was thinking the same thing.
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Well again ED can be caused by a lot of things many of which ED pills won't fix. One of those is anxiety and stress and that sounds like it might be his problem. Another thing is living away may mean he is using porn heavily and again Viagra and Cialis won't fix porn induced impotence. But you should really do all you can to find out the cause otherwise you are just running around in circles.
 

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She cheated on him and he hadn't seen her since she told him that she cheated.

I think that could cause ED.
 

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Well again ED can be caused by a lot of things many of which ED pills won't fix. One of those is anxiety and stress and that sounds like it might be his problem. Another thing is living away may mean he is using porn heavily and again Viagra and Cialis won't fix porn induced impotence. But you should really do all you can to find out the cause otherwise you are just running around in circles.
Hes shy with going to the Dr or even talking about his problem...so I just want something that May help...I know he won't go to the dr without me with him. I'm not living with him so I doubt hes going to go on his own. I fear that there is a medical problem but he won't even listen to me. He gets very angry when I say he might have a heart condition. It runs in the family, his biological father died early of heart attack and I fear a heart condition undiagnosed in my husband. All he says to me is if he dies than I'll be rich...That just hurts me so bad. I'm afraid of losing him in every way imaginable.

I know through our seperation that I can not truly love another and I know I'm the type of person that can't really have sex with someone I don't have intense feelings for.

I do have a close friend that is a guy, hes in a far away state....I have no intimate feelings for him at all...but I can tell him anything and I did tell him that if my husband and I ever really divorced, I would have a hard time finding someone to love.
 

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People like you, women mostly, who "can't really have sex with someone I don't have intense feelings for" are handicapped sexually and tend to suffer more sexual loneliness than those who can have recreational sex and enjoy it. And depending on how strongly you feel about this, having an affair, even with someone you really feel strongly about may most likely end with you suffering from guilt. This is the price some women pay for needing deep intimacy on a non sexual level in a relationship before they will agree to sex. Having to feel strongly about someone is a very fragile premise to build your sexuality on because it is so fleeting and impermanent and will just end up causing the kind of sexual drought you are now suffering through, which will occur over and over throughout your life.
 

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What, Mr. B?

She wants a connection with her husband.

What are you talking about?
 

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I am talking about the fact that although she may want her husband that's not happening and because she feels the way she does about sex nothing is going to happen (with him or anyone else) unless he can get his problem fixed. Considering the sexual dysfunction and the separation distance-wise taking a lover would be her answer at least in the short term but if she needs to be in an intimate relationship for that to happen then she will continue to suffer sexual drought.
 
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