I'm 24 and I know what you're talking about. She's my first one as well and it doesn't look like were going to break up or anything (not married). I've did a lot of reading on this site and self-diagnosed with "the grass is greener on the other side" and realizing that I would be throwing a whole lot away for some casual sex. IDK I think lots of people just get this kind of feelings out of their system during their late teens and during their twenties but if you haven't had that oppertunity then it's mostly a case of putting it to rest. For yourself.
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That's exactly the kind of thing a guy says to avoid a weird conversation with his girlfriend about whether he thinks about other girls.
I see attractive women out in the world. I occassionaly stare. But I don't step out of my marital bounds either.
But I always remember, the pain I felt when I learned my parents were going to divorce due to my dad's infidelty, and the pain my wife put me through.
I asked my wife if she ever worried about me stepping outside my marital vows. Not that I have or ever will though.
And she said "If I keep you fed and in bed, why would you ever want to leave?"
Can't argue with that at all!
But I always remember, the pain I felt when I learned my parents were going to divorce due to my dad's infidelty, and the pain my wife put me through.
I asked my wife if she ever worried about me stepping outside my marital vows. Not that I have or ever will though.
And she said "If I keep you fed and in bed, why would you ever want to leave?"
Can't argue with that at all!
Sure you can argue with that.I asked my wife if she ever worried about me stepping outside my marital vows.
And she said "If I keep you fed and in bed, why would you ever want to leave?"
Can't argue with that at all!
All you gotta say is "Well I kept you fed and in bed and you left me for another guy, why do you think I wouldn't do the same to YOU?!".
Do I "struggle" with it? No. Do I have desires for other women and other expreinces? Sure I do! I don't necessarily "envision it" or wish for it, but I do wonder about it and honestly wouldn't "mind" and would likely greatly enjoy an experience with another woman.
BUT, the thing that keeps me from "struggling" with it is my amazing woman at home. And the knowledge that likely far greater than 90 percent could never even come remotely close to comparing to her in so many ways. She's a great wife. A great companion. A great partner. We are on a very even wavelength together. She brings no undue drama into my life. She's not a drunk. She's not abusive. She's strong and independant. She's smart. She has a good career. She's very attractive. She's fabulous in the sack. And there's a lot of sack time. She's appreciative. She's supportive. She's fair. And on, and on, and on.
Are there other women out there who pique my sexual interest? You bet your azz there are. What, am I dead? No, I'm not. But infidelity is a deal breaker for us both. So I don't struggle with the desire to "go there". Aside from the knowledge I'd lose her as a result, she simply does not deserve to be wounded by that...ever. She's been damn near a perfect wife, partner and companion. And I'll not hurt her or lose her over a desire for some "strange".
If all else is good with your wife, I would definately try to work on the sexual issues that may be causing you to feel like you're missing out on something. Spice things up. If she's faltering, figure out how to fix it. There's plenty of info on these forums on how to do so.
If this is just a feeling about "missing out on the single life", well buddy, let me tell you this: Count your lucky stars, you're not missing out on a whole lot. The "single life" is not all it's cracked up to be. Lousy lays. Lousy attitudes. Lousy motivations or personal agendas. Attention wh0res. Liars. Cheats. Lousy baggage. Lousy boundaries or loyalties. And oftentimes you don't discover a lot of this until you've got major time invested in someone.
At the end of the day, if she's a good woman, and you can't get past this, then let her know the deal and let her go. But don't be shocked after you've found out that the grass is not greener on the other side, and after the excitement of "strange" has wore off and the lonliness of life without a great partner has set in that someone snatched her up and won't let her go.
I'm not saying the above as a slam on you. I'm saying you should think about the above scenario and see how that makes you feel.
BUT, the thing that keeps me from "struggling" with it is my amazing woman at home. And the knowledge that likely far greater than 90 percent could never even come remotely close to comparing to her in so many ways. She's a great wife. A great companion. A great partner. We are on a very even wavelength together. She brings no undue drama into my life. She's not a drunk. She's not abusive. She's strong and independant. She's smart. She has a good career. She's very attractive. She's fabulous in the sack. And there's a lot of sack time. She's appreciative. She's supportive. She's fair. And on, and on, and on.
Are there other women out there who pique my sexual interest? You bet your azz there are. What, am I dead? No, I'm not. But infidelity is a deal breaker for us both. So I don't struggle with the desire to "go there". Aside from the knowledge I'd lose her as a result, she simply does not deserve to be wounded by that...ever. She's been damn near a perfect wife, partner and companion. And I'll not hurt her or lose her over a desire for some "strange".
If all else is good with your wife, I would definately try to work on the sexual issues that may be causing you to feel like you're missing out on something. Spice things up. If she's faltering, figure out how to fix it. There's plenty of info on these forums on how to do so.
If this is just a feeling about "missing out on the single life", well buddy, let me tell you this: Count your lucky stars, you're not missing out on a whole lot. The "single life" is not all it's cracked up to be. Lousy lays. Lousy attitudes. Lousy motivations or personal agendas. Attention wh0res. Liars. Cheats. Lousy baggage. Lousy boundaries or loyalties. And oftentimes you don't discover a lot of this until you've got major time invested in someone.
At the end of the day, if she's a good woman, and you can't get past this, then let her know the deal and let her go. But don't be shocked after you've found out that the grass is not greener on the other side, and after the excitement of "strange" has wore off and the lonliness of life without a great partner has set in that someone snatched her up and won't let her go.
I'm not saying the above as a slam on you. I'm saying you should think about the above scenario and see how that makes you feel.
Lol. Sounds like something a guy would say to his girl, but it's total b.s. Sorry! All pu$$y was not created equal. Just as all d!cks were not. Now, if you've got a "tight one" (or a big one for dudes) and know how to "use it", well then, that works very much in your favor. If not, well, you'd better have the rest of your game together!
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