Any married women who wanted out because they "dont love their husband"? PM me pls

Re: Any married women who wanted out because they "dont love their husband"? PM me p

Couldn't hurt. I didn't wade through all your other posts, so I apologize. Have you exposed to her family and any friends who wouldn't be assisting in this? I did see something about you saying you wouldn't so that to her mom because she would pass out? I assume the news that her daughter is a cheater would be a hard pill for her to swallow? Tell me, do you think it will be harder for her to find out that you and her daughter split because of the cheating? Or would finding out that her daughter has been cheating and you are trying to get her out of her fog be harder? My point is that, by refusing to expose to those who would be most influential and are closest to her, you are basically letting her go ahead and do it.

I can promise you that, had my husband told my mom and dad about the first one, there would not have been a second one. My parents and I are close and yes, hearing something like that would have been devastating to them. But they would have held me accountable. They would have told me to either work on my marriage or divorce. Yea, I thought about leaving him. I thought about it a lot. But no amount of waiting on me, no amount of "being nice" helped. I truly thought, at the time, that I was no longer in love with him. Perhaps MC would have helped then, but we didn't go. Fortunately, I came out of the fog and we are rebuilding.

Give the MC a shot. Is this one who also specializes in infidelity/EAs?

Re: Any married women who wanted out because they "dont love their husband"? PM me p

Yeah, she wants to get through the holidays "stress free"--ie she wont have to deal with all the probing etc. She is disguising it as "lets not do anything to upset the kids for christmas". I cant wait, ii got a very revealing and painful audio from a VAR, that showed at least what she is telling OM.

I just dont know how much a therapist can help....its my last chance effort. In about a week, week and a half, i want to have divorce papers in hand, meet her at the house when the kids go to school, and tell her "unless you go to therapy, and end it with OM" i am filing.

My fear is that she will "go along with the whole therapy crap" until she can get to January. I need to square away my childcare before january, i will be very very busy then with work.

Re: Any married women who wanted out because they "dont love their husband"? PM me p

Back to your original question in your post to married women.

This forum has many posts from women who went back to their husbands once the affair ended. Read the stories about R's.

Of course your wife may come back to you once her affair ends - who knows right?

Have you tried the 180?

I haven't read your other posts. Does she know you know about her affair?

If you love her so much, why do you want to file for divorce? To "wake her up" from her affair?