The latest survey in Canadian Living reported that 1/3 of couples have sex a few times a week, 40% are intimate a few times a month, and 20% a handful of times a year.
The article quoted a clinical sexologist who said "frequency is a common complaint with couples. One person wants it more than the other. But everyone has their own normal, and I'd never say you have to have sex once a week. Some happy couples have sex once a month. Sexually satisfied people usually have two abilities, she says, The first is flexibility---and not the gymnastic kind. When initial passion fades, they adjust. When they have a child they adjust again. The second skill requires a little tuning out. they don't buy into messages from the media. Base sex on your own pleasure and connection."
The article quoted a clinical sexologist who said "frequency is a common complaint with couples. One person wants it more than the other. But everyone has their own normal, and I'd never say you have to have sex once a week. Some happy couples have sex once a month. Sexually satisfied people usually have two abilities, she says, The first is flexibility---and not the gymnastic kind. When initial passion fades, they adjust. When they have a child they adjust again. The second skill requires a little tuning out. they don't buy into messages from the media. Base sex on your own pleasure and connection."