Hi all,
Well I thought it about time I put some sort of an update on the site if for no other reason than to give me an opportunity to share my experience and write down what is happening...
Original thread is here for those interested or who were good enough to post on it...http://talkaboutmarriage.com/going-through-divorce-separation/43163-i-dont-know-what-do.html
Time has passed, much has happened....
In a nut shell this is it.......
If I take her back it might work, I may become more attracted to her again, she has certainly lost weight and seems happier and more stable.
If I take her back I lose all the high ground I have fought so hard for and she will never move out of this house again. If it works out then great.......If it does not however then I will be facing financial hardship if not ruin, as she is not in a position to buy me out.
I hope all you guys are well any way, as always I throw myself at your mercy and I am happy to hear any feedback or advice.
As before I am still in Turmoil, but coping with it quite well, it is just not fair on her to keep this dragging on...
Cheers
J
Well I thought it about time I put some sort of an update on the site if for no other reason than to give me an opportunity to share my experience and write down what is happening...
Original thread is here for those interested or who were good enough to post on it...http://talkaboutmarriage.com/going-through-divorce-separation/43163-i-dont-know-what-do.html
Time has passed, much has happened....
- I am still living alone in the marital home
- My wife and daughter are living in a new place now not too far away.
- We are still talking about reconciliation on a daily basis
- I am struggling to trust her.
- I am struggling with intimacy or even to be attracted to her if I am honest.
- She is piling on the pressure, it just makes me resist even more!
- We don't fight any more, things are calmer.
- OM is out of the picture almost 100% I believe.
In a nut shell this is it.......
If I take her back it might work, I may become more attracted to her again, she has certainly lost weight and seems happier and more stable.
If I take her back I lose all the high ground I have fought so hard for and she will never move out of this house again. If it works out then great.......If it does not however then I will be facing financial hardship if not ruin, as she is not in a position to buy me out.
I hope all you guys are well any way, as always I throw myself at your mercy and I am happy to hear any feedback or advice.
As before I am still in Turmoil, but coping with it quite well, it is just not fair on her to keep this dragging on...
Cheers
J