We only know her claims that she was a virgin prior to marriage. OP says she did have a history with guys trying to have hook-ups with her, which she fought off. So she says. Imagine a guilt-ridden person, someone who'd gone secretly against their beliefs and engaged in sex and felt that what they'd been taught was that they'd ruined themselves for marriage because of it. So instead they pretend it never happened, perhaps believing that everything will be fine once married, but instead every sexual act brings back the need to repress what had gone on before. Sex becomes the enemy, something to be avoided at all costs, a reminder of things gone wrong.Non-existent. She was a virgin & was brought up to believe sex was bad.
We're talking trauma of an extreme nature. It happens. Don't ask me how I know.