My husband and I have been together for almost 9 yrs and married for almost 7. We have two wonderful boys that adore both of us. I always thought we had everything. In the past year things started going south for us. My husband cheated on me with an old friend of mine while high on cocaine. He came home and told me right away. I gave him an ultimatum. Me or the powder. He chose me thankfully. However, he never really paid for what he did, instead he got a new motorcycle and an xbox 360. We fight and argue all the time. If he has a bad day at work he comes home and takes it out on me. He says I don't keep the house clean like he wants. The only thing he is responsible for is going to work. I do EVERYTHING else. I also work part time teaching private music lessons a couple days a week. I contribute half of my earnings towards bills. I have to do ALL the cooking and cleaning (even taking out the trash) as well as pay the bills, take care of the kids, do all the grocery shopping, etc. Then after he has blown up at me on the phone about nothing, he expects to come home to me and I am just supposed to be ready to go to bed with him like nothing ever happened. The scar of him cheating is still with me and it's been a year. I try not to hold it against him but the other day he called me by her name, he immediately tried to make some lame excuse. I know he isn't in contact with her (she lives in KY) He says on occasion that he "owns" me. I may not know how difficult his job is, but he gives me absolutely no credit or praise for anything I do, it's never good enough for him. I am so confused, I don't want to break up our home, but I am dealing with so much pain, and he is doing nothing to help the situation.