I don't think she's doing it necessarily to attract attention of OM, but she has had self-esteem issues in the past. IE, she only recently discovered her true attractiveness once I unlocked it. I encourage her to work out and better her self, I only ask her meet me half way on this issue. Do I think she is cheating or anything of the sort? - No.
Its hard to explain, but I have this defensive mechanism that kicks in when I notice men staring at her. I have no problem with people taking an 'initial glance' because I know its hard to not to just glance for a split second. But you keep your composure and look away, especially if her man is with her, out of respect, but not everyone in the world has my discipline. I have a problem with men blatantly staring for more then 1 or 2 seconds, enough for me to give them an extremely dirty, I'm going to murder you look, and as much as to verbally confront them about it.
I just have this subconscious itch that because of those lines, men are creating a profile of her ass. Because its something I use to do at the gym, and I'm not half as piggish as half the men on this earth.
It's a little unconventional, and probably not too normal. But I have met way more jealous / insecure guys. And I just want to know if this is out of line. If we were 30, I may think about it a little differently, but we're so young, and I know sometimes she misses the world outside of being married.
And regards to if everything else is fine - Everything is generally good in our marriage. Besides my slight jealousy / crazy issue, that causes her to be very mean to me, and say she can't be with someone like this, everything else is fine. Every now and then she throws out a 'you're not mentally there for me enough'. But, I try. I'm in the military, currently deployed, limited communication, stresses of my job, funds, all sorts of things. I admit, I'm not the best husband, emotionally, but I do support her in every way. When I was young, my parents had a nasty divorce. I promised my self I would not be that way to my wife. I do not yell, scream or say extremely nasty things out of spite. She does these things, and it does hurt. But I am a man, and I man up and just try to be the support beam for the marriage. Sometimes I believe, I am too nice and it invites her to walk on me. It takes a very extreme situation for me to yell or cuss wildly or take things she tells me in confidence that bother her, and use them against her (Things she does to me). I couldn't honestly tell you the last time I yelled. If I get mad, I just kind of close my eyes, take a breath, and say what I would yell, calmly. Does being calm and held back usually give way to the other spouse being extremely rash, and border line cruel?