I don’t equate having feelings for someone with an infatuation. And it didn’t seem to me that she was hanging out with this guy. OP worried the Starbucks trips were with him but when he tried to confirm she was by herself.Well if trust is gone things can be over.
If she is behaving in a way that seems untrustworthy, shady, causing anxiety stress and worry I have no prob ending things.
Getting feelings for someone?
The correct response is to honor the marriage and end those feelings by starving them and cutting contact and time with the person and not feeding them with more time and interaction.
We have different opinions on how to read the situation. It’s ok, the world won’t end. I respect your opinion and ability to discuss it with respect. Thank you!!!