Gee I know I am stupid sometimes... But if she DID NOTHING, then how could she help you believe that she still loved you????Yeah my first thought was chemistry was the boss too. I did read the article she searched for, was actually a really good read. It did get into the fog that is explained here. It did a good job explaining the nature of things with chemistry vs love. And I felt like the article was trying to talk the reader out following chemistry. Asking the reader, could you see yourself with this person in the long run AKA love.
Another weird thing I just remembered. A couple weeks before all of this. My wife did ask me a strange question after she found out someone she knows is a swinger. And was wondering what my thoughts were on an open marriage. I gave a huge list why I don't like it and she agreed with me. Also a couple days ago, she asked me. How do you think the covid thing has impacted our relationship. Then she quickly corrected herself and said oh nevermind, nothing has changed and she changed the subject.
I do think, confronting her right now is not the best idea. I am going to sit and watch a bit. And read that book.
I could be on very thin ice, if she truly in fact stopped. If it didn't stop and I still keeping finding things. I think your advice is the way to go.
Also during my little dday, I did ask her straight up if she still loved me. She said she did, and wanted to know what she could do to help me believe her.
I mean, she is a great wife, sure you guys did not have sex that often as I remember, but she was a great wife.
So while she DID NOTHING WRONG she is still asking what she can do to help you feel loved.
Why are you tying yourself in a pretzel to MAKE YOURSELF believe she did not have an affair?
Brother, when/if you find out the truth, please don't hurt yourself, just file for divorce.
I already would have if I was you...