My suggestion is that when he suggests how to do something let it be and if his plan doesn't work out than perhaps he will see it. I am thinking that you see your way as the better way to do things and you want to be heard. You do not understand his logic. Does he suggest a different way to do things when you have made a plan? he might be very tired of the long illustrated indepth exceptions to anything he tries to do and might be shutting you out and that might be why you feel a lack of connection.