so my husband and i have every differnet views on the womans role in the relationship he says im from the 50s where i do think a woman can be at home with a child for the first few years of life if she wants to. he swears we both need to work. i guess im not willing to hand over my newborn to a babysitter. Its also i feel like id be working just to pay for a sitter. Is it wrong to want this and unfair for him to be the only one bringing in money?