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I am sorry to disturb on this forum again. However, I was just looking threw my girlfriend's phone yesterday, when I noticed a new contact named "Angela". I questioned her about it, because of the questionably gay/lesbian before, she responded that this "Angela" was tied to a man who offered her a job. The tie between Angela and this man are they are husband and wife.

My issue is before there was a tie to her 50 year old friend (who actions, way of talking to her, bossing her around, constantly ruining her dates, forbidding my girl from calling me from her house in the latter part of their friendship, Telling my girl to leave her cell at home, always wanting to spend quality time with her, and constantly wanting her to spend nights at her house, expecting my girl to divide her time equally with her and me clearly demonstrated gayness/lesbianess. It doesnt take a rocket science to notice this isnt a normal platonic female to female friendship, but for some reason my girl's family and friends don't believe the 50 year old is gay. They dont seem to realize there are "out the closet gays", "down low gays" aka hidden gays)

When I first met her, she wanted me to drop all my female friends in a matter of weeks. All this while we worked at the same job, but somewhat different, so our time was limited. When I did go see her after I got off her 50 year old friend would be texting her phone calling her back to the 50 year olds house. She was always sleeping at the 50 year old's house with her husband there too esp on Friday and Saturday nights. So in my mind, I felt she was a swinger. Past a child's and teenager's bed time( past 12 am or so), she wouldnt pick up her phone when she was at her 50 friend's house all while 50 year old's husband was there too. Plus at work we would talk about Facebook, and my girlfriend before she was my girlfriend, mentioned how she had a beautiful woman on her list she has a crush on. She began talking about how this woman took her pictures off Facebook. I questioned her with the intense words " have a crush on", she responded "Most women crush on other women, I don't mean a crush like a man would crush on a woman, I mean she's beautiful".

Then she would refer to the 50 year old as her "Girlfriend". Some terms are outdated. As in other decades, the term "Gay" meant happy. I tried to explain to many today when a woman refers to another woman as "Girlfriend" people will automatically think your gay. She said she went back and spoke to another female friend ( Not the 50 year old), and that friend said what I am saying isnt true, and its perfectly fine for women to refer to other women to strangers as "Girlfriend". The reason why I say strangers, is because at that time she wasnt my girlfriend, she was just a person I had met at work.

Not to mention, I have heard my girlfriend's former husband speak on the phone, and the man sounds effeminate and gay. Some men have light voices and others have deeper one's, but this man pronounces his words with a womanly sound. I don't know if they had an open relationship, because this man sounds mighty gay, and all of this going on with her. Her former husband as she says was nothing more then a drunk sexual partner for her. He didnt take care of husbandly responsibilities, put her down, and talk down to her. She even said he always wanted to be around his male friends especially after work. I personally would rather be at home with my wife over my male friend's houses taking care of my family as a man.

I thought she may have been a bi swinger before with 50 year old friend and her gay or bisexual husband, now her's a new couple popping up in her life. I wonder if that may have been why she ended it with 50 year old.

Why does it have to be so weird ? She says she got the man's number at a place she works at for a company that is contracted. She says the man saw her doing her contracted worked, and told her he has a job for her. She says soon the man put him in contact with his wife, and they requested she do her contracted work at their houses.

All sounds weird and questionable, and she cant put herself in my shoes. All i get is irate words and tones thrown at me, but I am not the one sleeping at married couples houses or taking down their numbers....

My life is simple, why cant her's be ?
 

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We've deleted her ex husband's friends and family off her contact list on her phone. Mysteriously they're all back on her phone. She was very hostile towards her ex, but now she's being more civil with him.

For example, I tell her she's giving him too much detail on her life. He's her ex. As with my ex wife, we only talk about our kids, and that is it. I dont ask her any personal details, nor does she.

But her ex is asking all sorts of personal questions all a sudden.
 

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You say "WE" took the numbers off. But then SHE put them back on. Sounds like you gave her an ultimatum and all it did was teach her to lie to you and sneak.

Doesn't work.

The only thing that works is when YOU say "I will not stay with you if you lie to me" and then you proceed to leave her if you catch her lying again.

Are you prepared to give a consequence?
She said they were probably re added via Itunes
 
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