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i will try to keep this as short as possible,
i moved in with my fiance about 2 years ago (been together for 5 total), we are both happy in the relationship, she lived about 70 mins away from me, so i do not really know anybody here except for her family, i dont have many friends to begin with though,
once every 7-10 days i go to a local pub for some "me time" or "down time", my fiance knows about this, it is a friendly place where pretty much all the regulars are known, i started as an outsider i guess, but still felt welcomed,
i go at a time when it is not busy, i read the paper, watch a bit of tv, and have a few beers and leave, if the bartender talks to me, i will carry on the conversation, but i rarely start a conversation on my own,
over the course of a year or so i have gotten friendly with the regular bartender, she is my age and happily married, and we just chat about everyday life in general, just like buddies would,
i went in a sports pool there once and she asked for my number so she could let me know if i won it, so we exchanged numbers,
we now text a few times a week, nothing sexual of the sort, just friendly chat like i would talk to a buddy,
the other day she text me and said she is bored at work, so i asked if she wanted some company, (fiance was at work) she said yes, so i went in and chatted for awhile over a few beers,
is what im doing wrong? is it cheating?
i moved in with my fiance about 2 years ago (been together for 5 total), we are both happy in the relationship, she lived about 70 mins away from me, so i do not really know anybody here except for her family, i dont have many friends to begin with though,
once every 7-10 days i go to a local pub for some "me time" or "down time", my fiance knows about this, it is a friendly place where pretty much all the regulars are known, i started as an outsider i guess, but still felt welcomed,
i go at a time when it is not busy, i read the paper, watch a bit of tv, and have a few beers and leave, if the bartender talks to me, i will carry on the conversation, but i rarely start a conversation on my own,
over the course of a year or so i have gotten friendly with the regular bartender, she is my age and happily married, and we just chat about everyday life in general, just like buddies would,
i went in a sports pool there once and she asked for my number so she could let me know if i won it, so we exchanged numbers,
we now text a few times a week, nothing sexual of the sort, just friendly chat like i would talk to a buddy,
the other day she text me and said she is bored at work, so i asked if she wanted some company, (fiance was at work) she said yes, so i went in and chatted for awhile over a few beers,
is what im doing wrong? is it cheating?