The explosion may be the same but if you were told years ago where the landmine was & you refused to defuse it, then stepped on it later it's not solely the fault of the person who initially buried it.
About that since he choosed to stay it´s no more solely her fault, it´s right to a certain point.
Someones may see it as the right thing by then so he should stay consistent with it now.
Someones may look at it as he shared and shares the fault since he became her accomplice by staying.
Also true that is him whom should deal with it.
But not necessarily with his "feelings" as an "inner" problem to be fixed.
If he thinks he did right when he dealt with it by then, he is adressing now the cost of a right choice. It happens.
If he is doubting about if such cost was / is worth what he got for it, yes, he haves to deal with it now. To deal with it may mean to do now what he did not then and have different results.
In either case, it´s no more related to "guilt".
It´s still about her choice then and his choices then but also now cos the same facts.
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