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I need a life outside my business and family. My children are getting old and in a couple of years they will all be done high school and will be on their own.
I moved away from my 'home town' to go to school. The 'close' friends that I had growing up all live a long ways away from me.
The past 30 years, I have spent my time building a business and a family. My social life has been for the most part, going to kids sporting events. I know many guys from work and from these sporting events, but I don't consider any of them 'friends'. Not guys that I would call to go to a movie or out for coffee. I play squash in a men's league and have met many guys. We have a good game, we have a couple of beers afterwards, but I would never call any of them to do something outside of squash. They are acquaintances, but not really 'friends'.
I know my father was the same way. He spent all of his time with family and with work. He had no real friends. When they retired, it bothered him that my mom had friends and would always be going for coffee or shopping with her friends.
Am I normal? How do grown men, get friends?
I moved away from my 'home town' to go to school. The 'close' friends that I had growing up all live a long ways away from me.
The past 30 years, I have spent my time building a business and a family. My social life has been for the most part, going to kids sporting events. I know many guys from work and from these sporting events, but I don't consider any of them 'friends'. Not guys that I would call to go to a movie or out for coffee. I play squash in a men's league and have met many guys. We have a good game, we have a couple of beers afterwards, but I would never call any of them to do something outside of squash. They are acquaintances, but not really 'friends'.
I know my father was the same way. He spent all of his time with family and with work. He had no real friends. When they retired, it bothered him that my mom had friends and would always be going for coffee or shopping with her friends.
Am I normal? How do grown men, get friends?