I grew up with parents who were not very sociable and seldom drank or went out. My wife's parents and grandparents were very much opposite of that, they went out to bars or clubs nearly every weekend all while she was growing up. I work usually 50 hours a week, when I'm home on the weekends I want to spend as much time as possible with her and the kids. The last thing that I want to do is go out and stay up late drinking and then sleep late the next day while the kids are at my parents. I feel like I've wasted time to be with my young children. She would like to go out at least once a month if I'd give in more. I feel like one a year is too much. The times I do give in I usually end up mad that she's not ready to leave by the agreed upon time. I've even went to the car and slept there while waiting on her. I've started lately staying home with kids while she goes out. I hate this even more. I worry about her to the point I almost get physically ill. Both her grandparents and parents have struggled through infidelity issues. I worry as our kids get older this issue between us is going to worsen. I just feel that going out to a bar or club is an invitation for trouble that we don't need in our lives. Am I being unreasonable by NEVER wanting to go? What is a fair compromise?