I am a stay at home mom with a 5 year old and a 7 month old. My husband works a lot of hours during the spring and fall (one of the reasons why I have to be a stay at home mom not that I am complaining) when we first got married my husband was so wonderful and he treated me like gold and I know things change but latel home, when he does come home he doesn’t talk he doesn’t hold me or kiss me like he use to, I’m not oblivious to the fay he doesn’t even treat me like I exists, he stays out till midnight or 2 am one night a couple weeks ago he went out and didn’t even bother to come home or even tell me he wasn’t comingct that the honeymoon period wears off but he acts like he doesn’t even like me anymore and doesn’t have any respect for me.
We don’t go anywhere together anymore I almost feel like he is ashamed of me and doesn’t want to be seen with me, I have tried my very best, cooking more of the things he likes keeping the house even cleaner I do all the yard work, taking care of everything all he has to do is shower himself and go to work, and that is about all he does I don’t even leave the kids with him if I have to go to the store. I feel completely taken for granted and have no one else to ask advice from because I don’t want to talk to my family or friends about this because I don’t want them to think poorly of him.
Recently a woman from his work has been texting him a lot after checking his phone and finding texts from her and calling him out on it he started deleting his texts but I know he is still getting them because I hear his phone go off and when check it later he has deleted it, or when I ask who he is texting he says no one, I don’t think he’s cheating on me but at the same time it wouldn’t surprise me if he was. He told me one day there is nothing worth coming home to. We don’t fight and I have home cooked meals waiting for him if he would come home but we don’t talk either no matter how hard I try to get him to talk. About a year and a half ago his brother was murdered and I don’t think he really ever dealt with his loss but I’m afraid that he will end up losing us to.
Please help I don’t know what to do anymore
We don’t go anywhere together anymore I almost feel like he is ashamed of me and doesn’t want to be seen with me, I have tried my very best, cooking more of the things he likes keeping the house even cleaner I do all the yard work, taking care of everything all he has to do is shower himself and go to work, and that is about all he does I don’t even leave the kids with him if I have to go to the store. I feel completely taken for granted and have no one else to ask advice from because I don’t want to talk to my family or friends about this because I don’t want them to think poorly of him.
Recently a woman from his work has been texting him a lot after checking his phone and finding texts from her and calling him out on it he started deleting his texts but I know he is still getting them because I hear his phone go off and when check it later he has deleted it, or when I ask who he is texting he says no one, I don’t think he’s cheating on me but at the same time it wouldn’t surprise me if he was. He told me one day there is nothing worth coming home to. We don’t fight and I have home cooked meals waiting for him if he would come home but we don’t talk either no matter how hard I try to get him to talk. About a year and a half ago his brother was murdered and I don’t think he really ever dealt with his loss but I’m afraid that he will end up losing us to.
Please help I don’t know what to do anymore