Hi everyone. I need to talk to someone that doesn't know me and can really give me some much needed advice. Its kinda complicated so please be patient with me. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We got married when we were 21. So for a long time, I thought maybe that was the problem. But I'm starting to believe that it is deeper then that. He is a very attractive military man who has a personlity and a conversation for anyone. The first time we moved in together it was really bad. He constantly cheated on me. He went out on dates, he brought women to the house when I was out of town........ but I never left. During this time we had our first daughter. He decided to take a break from the military and we moved back home. During the transition, I spent his money while he was out to sea. And then the situation got even worse. It was like a took a part of his heart from him. I spent the next year proving to him that I really did love him and it wasnt about the money. Well during this time, he cheated on me again and while I was pregnant with our second child I contracted an STD from my husband. I am not one to down another female but this chick really had nothing going for herself she wasn't even cute. We seperated, I moved back with my parents and he joined the military again. After a brief seperation I realized that I loved him far to much to be without him. We got back together. He often says that I am far to nosey and I bring alot of things on myself. This brings me to my first question. Do all woman check their husbands cell phones or go through their emails when presented with the opportunity? Its not that I want to catch him in anything. I would just love to look for once and see something saying that I love my wife, or I have a wonderful wife.............something that makes me feel good. Well through probing I found out that he had been dating a girl for the past 3 years and they now have a child together. I love his family like my own and they all knew about it. This is what really broke my heart. He once expressed to me that he loved this girl and he no longer loved me anymore. He later took it back but This has never left my thoughts. To me sharing your body and one thing but when someone has your heart that even worse. I am slowly learning to accept this because like I said I love him more then anything and the situation is complicated. It would be alot easier to deal with if another factor wasn't involved. This brings me to my second question. Does anyone besides me believes adult sex dating sites is cheating? He says its not cheating its entertainment. But when you are exchanging numbers and nude pictures with other individuals that is crossing the line. Don't get me wrong he can be a loving husband and he is a wonderful father but I am starting to believe that his marriage to me is one of convience then that of love or commitment. I think about him cheating on me all of the time yet I can't get up the nerve and my heart will not let me just leave. Will someone PLEASE take the time to give me some advice?