Hey, goldstandard, I was JUST LOOKING at your original 'Ultimatum' thread because THAT is where I got my first "like"! (how sentimental is THAT?!?)
You WERE right to break it off with her; she did NOT have good intentions toward you! Have you made a CONCERTED EFFORT to find new friends (men AND women) through hobbies, interests, etc.?
If so, how is that going?
If not, WHY not?
I know you knew your ex-gf for close to TWO DECADES;
are you missing HER as she actually IS?
are you missing AN IMAGE of how you THOUGHT she was?
are you missing an idealized image of her as she NEVER ACTUALLY WAS?
What is it you actually MISS? HER, or how it COULD HAVE BEEN if she was a different (more 'perfect' person)? Because THESE are two VERY DIFFERENT scenarios!
I'm sorry to hear that you're still feeling down about the break-up of this relationship (because it's been 8 months now).
You WERE right to break it off with her; she did NOT have good intentions toward you! Have you made a CONCERTED EFFORT to find new friends (men AND women) through hobbies, interests, etc.?
If so, how is that going?
If not, WHY not?
I know you knew your ex-gf for close to TWO DECADES;
are you missing HER as she actually IS?
are you missing AN IMAGE of how you THOUGHT she was?
are you missing an idealized image of her as she NEVER ACTUALLY WAS?
What is it you actually MISS? HER, or how it COULD HAVE BEEN if she was a different (more 'perfect' person)? Because THESE are two VERY DIFFERENT scenarios!