I posted many months ago under the title ultimatum. The members here were very helpful and the general response was to run for the hills. My gut instinct was that she was in love with getting married and not really in love with me. Quick flashback and review. After dating for 5 months, at Christmas a few years ago she gave me a marriage ultimatum. She went to the local jeweler and priced a ring for herself and told me that I had 2 weeks to decide. We are both in our early 50's. She has never been married but has a teenage daughter from a previous boyfriend who told here he did not want children. I have been married twice before and have no children. I own a business with my brother and lost a lot financially when I went through my divorces. I have now recovered. Since the first ultimatum, I have tried to get her to understand that I wanted us to go slow and build a foundation of trust and communication. I had hung in there barely by a thread with her mood swings. There was no consistency of her wanting to work on our relationship growing; only resentment that I wouldn't commit. She has some signs of bi polar but I don't know for sure. There has been no intimacy for well over a year and we barely have spend any time together over the last year and a half because of her refusal to just date me. It is definitely over now but I still find myself grieving the loss. All I wanted was to be careful and take things slow. There has to be light at the end of the tunnel for me. Can anyone help please.