I have been married for 6 years now and my husband just doesn't seem to understand that he has to stop acting like he's in college and start becoming a man. He is 32 years old and he occasionally goes out drinking on Thursday nights and either goes in to work late on Friday or not at all. He sometimes does this on Sunday nights and the same thing as Friday happens on Monday. He has a great job and he just can't keep making excuses to his boss as to why he is late or not going in to work. Just this month alone (April) he has done this twice. I can't take it anymore. His younger brother does this as well and my husband constantly calls him a loser and waste for not being able to make it in to work. He says these things when he's sober but when he's drunk........he does the same thing his brother does. I have dealt with this for 6 years and i want to make it stop. He has so much to support and if he loses his job then he's done. He says he won't ever lose his job but how can that be? He is actually in bed right now not in work because today is Monday...............and he went out last night. Can I give him an ultimatum to make him stop this behavior? I am on my way to becoming a very successful business woman because I love to work and I am doing this for us. I have a very stong work ethic and I just want someone that has that same drive and passion to succeed. I know I can make it on my own but I am not sure that I want to include him in my future career plans because I just don't respect him anymore. I honestly feel like he is a complete bum. What can I do?