I'm not sure this is a problem with any real solution, but - I feel the need to vent about it. I know that this post might make me seem like kind of a wad, but - it is something I'm truly curious about.
Yes, I realize that I could solve my confusion over the whole situation with the FB friend by simply unfriending her on Facebook, but as this has also happened to me with RL acquaintances/wives of my husband's friends - I'm curious how people deal with this situation.
The phenomenon is - person has a child, and then complains bitterly about how they are tired, how the baby is annoying, how the baby takes up too much time, how they aren't themselves, how they feel trapped, how their life is gone. One of the people in question even commented if their religion wasn't against it, they'd had have an abortion.
Which - is all understandable, I myself have struggled adjusting to my role as a SAHM and have been in counseling for post-partum, so I totally get having those feelings and wanting to vent them or express them. What confuses me is - they then get pregnant again, only a year or two later. And again, begin to make the same complaints.
If having the first baby drove you insane, to the point you mention wishing you'd had an abortion, why oh why would you do it to yourself again so soon?
Example - My FB friend is a SAHM, her boyfriend is part-time employed, and they live on assistance. (Which, I have my own thoughts on that, but that could be a whole separate discussion.) She is currently pregnant with her second child. The first child she comments he is chronically ill, he is always coming down with or just getting over something - ear infections, random puking, unknown rashes. She'll then comment about the expense of his care, about debating to take him to the doctor due to lack of money.
Which - I'm then at a loss at what to say or think - I never comment though I am tempted to. But, I just keep coming back to - if things went so poorly the first time - why would you do that again? If you are already poor, how will having another child help? What are people expected to say when you comment about your first child being tiring, and you are super tired because you are pregnant again?
Does anyone else have friends like this?
Yes, I realize that I could solve my confusion over the whole situation with the FB friend by simply unfriending her on Facebook, but as this has also happened to me with RL acquaintances/wives of my husband's friends - I'm curious how people deal with this situation.
The phenomenon is - person has a child, and then complains bitterly about how they are tired, how the baby is annoying, how the baby takes up too much time, how they aren't themselves, how they feel trapped, how their life is gone. One of the people in question even commented if their religion wasn't against it, they'd had have an abortion.
Which - is all understandable, I myself have struggled adjusting to my role as a SAHM and have been in counseling for post-partum, so I totally get having those feelings and wanting to vent them or express them. What confuses me is - they then get pregnant again, only a year or two later. And again, begin to make the same complaints.
If having the first baby drove you insane, to the point you mention wishing you'd had an abortion, why oh why would you do it to yourself again so soon?
Example - My FB friend is a SAHM, her boyfriend is part-time employed, and they live on assistance. (Which, I have my own thoughts on that, but that could be a whole separate discussion.) She is currently pregnant with her second child. The first child she comments he is chronically ill, he is always coming down with or just getting over something - ear infections, random puking, unknown rashes. She'll then comment about the expense of his care, about debating to take him to the doctor due to lack of money.
Which - I'm then at a loss at what to say or think - I never comment though I am tempted to. But, I just keep coming back to - if things went so poorly the first time - why would you do that again? If you are already poor, how will having another child help? What are people expected to say when you comment about your first child being tiring, and you are super tired because you are pregnant again?
Does anyone else have friends like this?