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This conversation was going on in another thread, but the thread was deleted. :(

Anyway - the point was made that it seems that you frequently see statements like this "I'm XX, but people tell me I look a lot younger." when people describe themselves.

Does everyone look younger than they are? I've known only a few people who actually looked older than they were (balding, beer gut, gray hair does this) but for the most part do we misjudge age that bad?

Disclosure - when people learn my "true age" (pushing 50) I very frequently get the response that I look much much younger. Since this is a marriage web site, I'll also throw in that my wife really hates it when I tell her these stories - which I find somewhat perplexing. :scratchhead:
 

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People tend to guess younger on purpose at times to make a good first impression, but don't take that as meaning you don't look younger yourself. I'm just making a broad statement and what I tend to do. If there was a money Benton it, I'm sure the gap would close a few years.
 

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People generally think I'm 10 years OLDER than I am- lots of gray.
I think certain characteristics like gray hair/no hair automatically make people think you are much older
About 15 years ago I had a boss who was 40, but looked like he was over 50. I'd never seen anything like it before. When he was with his wife, you'd swear it was his daughter.

He silver hair, deep acne scars, and the gut. It really made him look old. He was a great guy with a terrific attitude though.
 

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Gray hair/balding definitely ages you out. One of my class mates from college grayed super early. He married this gorgeous woman who was just a year behind us. However if you look at them you'd think he was robbing the cradle, even though both are only in their late 20's/early 30's. He easily looks to be in his 40's.

A beard can age you too. I wore a beard for a good 7 or 8 years. I decided to cut it off a few months ago, just because I realized that I hadn't seen my full face since college. I was stunned at the results. It wasn't until then that I realized that my face has almost no signs of aging. I am not an old man, but shaved my face looks very young. I know this objectively because after I shaved my beard almost everyone in my life commented on how young I looked. My wife said she feels like she's almost dating a younger man because my face looks so much like it did in my late teen/early 20's. I posted a pic and a female friend I haven't seen in over a decade said "would you stop taking the youth juice and age already!". People who had never seen me bare faced were floored, and kinda freaked out by how different, and younger, I suddenly looked from the person they knew. I went to a bar with another friend of mine, and he looks really young, and these two women asked were we really old enough to be in the bar. Turns out they were both three years younger than me. What does give my age away is that I have an old soul. Always have.

That's how you know if you actually look younger than your age. Get enough unsolicited comments, and you start to realize that yeah, there is something to it. I have seen people who swear they look sooo much younger than their biological age, and they keep saying it over, and over, and over again, in the hopes that they'll convince you.
 

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In the United States, if you are over 35 and a healthy weight, people will think you look younger than you are.


Edit - I don't mean to sound condescending in my post. Actually, I have been overweight and I do understand that sometimes it is very, very hard to change one's habits.
 

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I know this objectively because after I shaved my beard almost everyone in my life commented on how young I looked.
Had a similar experience. I had a beard for a long time (15 years?) then decided to lose it earlier this year. It created quite the shock.

Get enough unsolicited comments, and you start to realize that yeah, there is something to it.
This is one of the things I've been wondering - if it's just me or everyone goes through this. I do get a lot of unsolicited comments and also anytime a conversation turns to a topic that is age related. One time I mentioned how I'll soon be an "empty nester" (my son will be off to college soon) and yes - there were comments but it wasn't so much the comments but the looks of disbelief on the faces on the two people I was talking to (one M, the other F). The assumption then is that I had kids when I was a teenager or something (I didn't - was well into my 30s).

It's all extremely flattering and I've not given it much thought until more recently as I start to push the big 50.

In the United States, if you are over 35 and a healthy weight, people will think you look younger than you are.


Edit - I don't mean to sound condescending in my post. Actually, I have been overweight and I do understand that sometimes it is very, very hard to change one's habits.
Lol - I know someone who is about 100 lbs overweight but he looks like he's about 15 years younger than he is. In fact, he looks much younger than his five year younger brother. His wife is about 10 years younger than him. I guess she was fooled.
 

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I get told a lot I look younger than I am :D

A year or so ago I went out to a rock club I used to frequent in my late teens and early twenties. I ran into some old friends who said I looked *exactly* the same as I did fifteen years ago - FYI I am thirtysomething now. I also frequently get ID'ed buying alcohol, going into pubs, and even buying kitchen knives (18 over here in UK.) I always have to carry my driving licence around with me.

FWIW I think with me a lot of it is perception. A lot of the time it is related to my children, for example, "you don't look old enough to have four kids!" Hubz has introduced me to friends who have said they can't believe how young I look - I don't know what exactly they THOUGHT I looked like??!! And I never get ID'ed when I have any of the kids with me - not that I take them to the pub or owt! And hubz always has said he likes that I don't look "mumsy" - whatever that is it messes with people's perception of my age apparently! People seem to have formulated an idea of how old they think I am and what I look like based on what they have been told about me and I never fit that perception.
 

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In the United States, if you are over 35 and a healthy weight, people will think you look younger than you are.
Well that's definitely not true. Some overweight and obese people are youthened in appearance by excess fat that smooths out the appearance of wrinkles and creases.

It just depends on the person. I've seen people lose weight and look both much younger, and much older.

This is one of the things I've been wondering - if it's just me or everyone goes through this.
Nope, it doesn't happen to everyone. I know because at this point I've been in all categories.

When I was a teenager I looked much older than my age.

For a long time I looked my age. A random stranger guessed my age within a year, and my wife told me, during a conversation about age, that I looked my age.

Now, in my early 30's, with the beard off, and taking better care of my skin, I get mistaken for being younger than I am. My wife and sister often joke that I'm de-aging.

Genetics play a roll too. My mom, and most of my aunts and uncles from her side of the family, aged extremely well. I saw two of my uncles, and one of my aunts, recently and was floored that they look younger than the last time I saw them.
 

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I had an old lady tell me a few mouths ago at a church dinner .....she seemed flabbergasted I had 6 kids with one in college, she thought I was in my late 20's.. well her eye sight must have been going ~ made me :) anyway.

3rd son guessed I was later 30's... on my 46th Birthday, I told him he made my day!

If I didn't dye my hair, I'd look awful ....and always...our attitudes (do we laugh & love ~ our personalities young & free before others)...and how we carry ourselves many times (our dress)...these things speak as well as looks...so I would feel.

My husband is almost 50 and still has all his hair ...I love this...as I am not attracted to bald men -like at all. I think his dad never went bald either... so fingers are crossed.
 

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I just moved back here in May of this year. A couple of months ago, I was at the grocery store when a guy passed me and then called my name. I answered and TOTALLY did not recognize him, but he recognized me!

He was a friend of my STBXH whom I had not seen in the 15 years since we had moved away with our then-infant daughter. I haven't seen him in the intervening years, but he recognized me; said I hadn't changed. [I'm now 55yo.]
 

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In my case being a bit plump helps me look younger because it softens my face. I don't have any wrinkles except a "1" (not the 11, I'm lopsided!) between my eyes. I'll be 45 in April and usually I get that I look late 30s. But I was carded well into my 30s - I've always looked a bit younger than I really am.

And whoever mentioned coloring hair - yep, I'd be completely salt n pepper if I didn't color the grey. I'm sure if I didn't, I would look closer to my real age.

Also because I'm very white and tend to easily burn, I've never been much of a sun worshipper and I think that makes a difference.
 

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This conversation was going on in another thread, but the thread was deleted. :(

Anyway - the point was made that it seems that you frequently see statements like this "I'm XX, but people tell me I look a lot younger." when people describe themselves.

Does everyone look younger than they are? I've known only a few people who actually looked older than they were (balding, beer gut, gray hair does this) but for the most part do we misjudge age that bad?

Disclosure - when people learn my "true age" (pushing 50) I very frequently get the response that I look much much younger. Since this is a marriage web site, I'll also throw in that my wife really hates it when I tell her these stories - which I find somewhat perplexing. :scratchhead:
I think that was my thread. I deleted it because I felt it ran it's course. I get embarrassed when my threads lose their luster so I get rid of them.

Glad ya liked it ;)

(BTW- If you are talking about somebody else's thread please don't let me know.)
 

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In this day and age it's not that hard to look younger if you work at it a bit and have semi decent genes. And barring that if you have a little money to spare even that can be dealt with. I do think of that show 10 years younger. With some minor fixes in their appearance they did appear younger.

I look younger now than I did 10 years ago only because I grew my hair out, dress better, lost weight, am more fit, etc. It's all an illusion really.
 

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I personally think I look my age. I see the little wrinkles emerging between my eyebrows and nose. They are my concentration lines. And when I raise my eyebrows, there's evidence on my forehead a few seconds afterwards that I've just made that expression.

Others have guessed that I'm younger. My BIL thought I was 28. He'd forgotten I'm the same age as his brother - my husband. I've recently lightened my hair which friends commented makes me look a little younger. Recently my age was guessed at 32. I don't know what that means, if anything. My husband's take is I'm nearly 36 and there's nothing wrong with looking that age, because it's the age I am!

However I do have this weird thing going on mentally about approaching 40. My goal is to be in the best shape I've been in by the time I turn 40. I don't know why, it's just something I have been thinking. I have been considering how I'll feel at 40 and looking back to now and between now and then what do I want to make happen for myself. Life has it's own rhythm but I'll still project onto it.

I can't stand the botoxed plumped up tightened look. Each to their own but I don't like it. I don't think people look younger. I think they look like they're older trying to look younger.
 

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I think I look right about my age, which is 40. I used to get told I looked younger all the time, but then I had children and the permanent exhaustion has taken its toll.
 
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