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Husband had an EA, he immediately admitted it after I suspected it and confronted him. I can't get over it because I never expected it from him and he works with that woman. Anyway, he wants a divorce, all of a sudden he's unhappy, never been and I never actualized myself. Whatever that means. He is not going to her nor does he want to pursue her. I want to make it work because I think we both screwed up and we have a chance but most importantly we have a baby. I started our marriage asking for a divorce whenever he ignored and treated me like I didn't exist when I should have forced therapy. He keeps blaming me now and saying he'd ever have entertained divorce if I didn't bring it up. I'm sick of the fighting and the yelling. I'm a stay at home mom with super little income and figuring out finances while doing work from home while trying to find a full time job is breaking me. I don't expect him to provide for me not intend to wait for him to support me. But I feel like a deadline is looming over my rad and the stress is too much.
I think this is a phase. And that he is gonna snap out of it. maybe i'm fooling myself? We've been together 8 years. If he thinks we have nothing in common and is mad I don't share stuff with him, would something like the 180 approach be good or counter productive? Also, how do I get myself to calm down and be collected and tackle this right when one moment he's nice and the other a total d-bag?
I think this is a phase. And that he is gonna snap out of it. maybe i'm fooling myself? We've been together 8 years. If he thinks we have nothing in common and is mad I don't share stuff with him, would something like the 180 approach be good or counter productive? Also, how do I get myself to calm down and be collected and tackle this right when one moment he's nice and the other a total d-bag?