I think your husband is feeling guilty about having an affair and i think he is trying to convince himself that he doesn't care about your or your marriage so that he won't feel guilty for what he did because if you think about it its easier to hurt someone you don't care about then it is to hurt someone you care about. I think he will only be able to fool himself for so long before this all comes back to bite him in the butt because maybe by that time you will have moved on and he will have lost out.
I truly believe that no matter what having someone as a big part of your life for 8 years cannot just be erased over night and i think he will figure that out.
This is just my opinion he needs to realize that your asking him for a divorce when you felt ignored was a cry for help and he should have taken that cue and realized that.
Right now you need to take care of yourself and your baby i know that is hard to do when you are feeling so sad.
I really hope everything does work out for you.
I truly believe that no matter what having someone as a big part of your life for 8 years cannot just be erased over night and i think he will figure that out.
This is just my opinion he needs to realize that your asking him for a divorce when you felt ignored was a cry for help and he should have taken that cue and realized that.
Right now you need to take care of yourself and your baby i know that is hard to do when you are feeling so sad.
I really hope everything does work out for you.