I don't think that is counter-intuitive. Everyone has social/emotional needs and certainly physical needs. It's not like you want to experience the hurt and dark days again. It's the good parts you'd like to have again. Even in MY marriage there were good days - granted I find it hard to remember them but I'm sure there were decent days.
And even that desire for companionship will run in phases if you are anything like me. I'll be happy, productive, doing stuff with friends and then there will be a special occasion such as a holiday party where I have to RSVP as just one and suddenly my life feels lonely. With Christmas and New Years' Eve coming up and boyfriend just putting us on "hold" I'm already feeling sad. I'll be alone this Christmas as it's Ex's turn and she'll be gone til school resumes in January. I haven't had a date on New Year's Eve in 9 years. (yes, I'm counting) I would love to go to a party but find I'm dreading midnight with no one to kiss. Then spring will come and I'll have pretty days, yard work, pool opening, etc. to fill my days and I'll be fine until it's summer and I see more people out walking holding hands, no one to join at a BBQ or bonfire. Then back to school will have me busy with my daughter and her sports schedule.
Your cycle might not be the same as mine - maybe you'll get restless in the spring "when a young man's fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love". But they always pass.
And even that desire for companionship will run in phases if you are anything like me. I'll be happy, productive, doing stuff with friends and then there will be a special occasion such as a holiday party where I have to RSVP as just one and suddenly my life feels lonely. With Christmas and New Years' Eve coming up and boyfriend just putting us on "hold" I'm already feeling sad. I'll be alone this Christmas as it's Ex's turn and she'll be gone til school resumes in January. I haven't had a date on New Year's Eve in 9 years. (yes, I'm counting) I would love to go to a party but find I'm dreading midnight with no one to kiss. Then spring will come and I'll have pretty days, yard work, pool opening, etc. to fill my days and I'll be fine until it's summer and I see more people out walking holding hands, no one to join at a BBQ or bonfire. Then back to school will have me busy with my daughter and her sports schedule.
Your cycle might not be the same as mine - maybe you'll get restless in the spring "when a young man's fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love". But they always pass.