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We were married in 1987, had our son in 1989. The marriage lasted 14 years. Ups and downs, but we loved eachother. Our son (in my opinion) was treated differently than his first son. We divorced 10 years ago, but we stayed together. Eventhough I initiated it due to his behavior, we both tried to stop it, but the judge said it was too late, the six month time frame still had three weeks on it.
Anyway, we lived in separate houses, but still did everything together, this went on for ten years. Yes, I tried to get us back in the same house, but he kept procrastinating. It turned out that he was involved with several young girls who began to take his attention away from the focus of our family. Within the last three years, he became mentally/verbally abusive to me. Would laugh at me, my children on separate ocassions. I could never do anything right. I started looking different to him, gained weight, my ass was flat (according to him) my hair wasn't right anymore.
I'd make plans for us to vacation, each year we went somewhere we'd never been. He went on vacation, but would never have sex with me, that went on for the last two of the three years. I promised I would never leave him again so I stayed eventhough I knew, something wasn't right. He did and said everything in his power to get me to walk out. He lied, started arguments, accused me of saying things, doing things, yelling at me, all the ****.
He lied to our kids, making them believe that it was I who was having issues when in fact, it was all about him and what he was doing. My children now dont respond to his emails, phone calls or don't go see him. He moved and wouldnt tell them where he stayed fearing I'd find out and come stalk him, I guess. In the last days he said "those arent my kids, my kids wouldnt act like that", "I dont love you anymore", just angry at me.
I said to him, "May God Bless You" and I haven't picked up my phone to dial his digits since and I haven't seen him. In July 2012, my girlfriend ran into him, and he brought my name up in conversation. She ignored him and changed the subject. In the same month, he saw a guy I was with BEFORE I was with him, all of a sudden he introduced himself to the guy and let the guy know he used to be married to me. WTF?
He drives the bus, so now, his route goes past my job. I saw him twice. Once he rolled right up on me as I walked past the bus stop, opened the door on the bus, and do you know he looked, but didn't speak. I never looked his way, (my periphial vision works fine by the way). The second time, I was crossing the street, he rolled right on by, again, I wouldn't make eye contact.
Im just confused at his tactics. Isn't he happier now that he drove us all away? He has these new younger girls to fill up his days with? I just made 50 and he just made 52. We have two beautiful grandchildren, our three kids are all adults now, the youngest 23. These girls are as young as 25 - 30. Why is he trying to be seen by me now?
Sorry for ranting you guys, it still hurts, but Im trying to move forward. Anybody got any ideas of what might be happening from his point of view. :wtf: :rant:
Anyway, we lived in separate houses, but still did everything together, this went on for ten years. Yes, I tried to get us back in the same house, but he kept procrastinating. It turned out that he was involved with several young girls who began to take his attention away from the focus of our family. Within the last three years, he became mentally/verbally abusive to me. Would laugh at me, my children on separate ocassions. I could never do anything right. I started looking different to him, gained weight, my ass was flat (according to him) my hair wasn't right anymore.
I'd make plans for us to vacation, each year we went somewhere we'd never been. He went on vacation, but would never have sex with me, that went on for the last two of the three years. I promised I would never leave him again so I stayed eventhough I knew, something wasn't right. He did and said everything in his power to get me to walk out. He lied, started arguments, accused me of saying things, doing things, yelling at me, all the ****.
He lied to our kids, making them believe that it was I who was having issues when in fact, it was all about him and what he was doing. My children now dont respond to his emails, phone calls or don't go see him. He moved and wouldnt tell them where he stayed fearing I'd find out and come stalk him, I guess. In the last days he said "those arent my kids, my kids wouldnt act like that", "I dont love you anymore", just angry at me.
I said to him, "May God Bless You" and I haven't picked up my phone to dial his digits since and I haven't seen him. In July 2012, my girlfriend ran into him, and he brought my name up in conversation. She ignored him and changed the subject. In the same month, he saw a guy I was with BEFORE I was with him, all of a sudden he introduced himself to the guy and let the guy know he used to be married to me. WTF?
He drives the bus, so now, his route goes past my job. I saw him twice. Once he rolled right up on me as I walked past the bus stop, opened the door on the bus, and do you know he looked, but didn't speak. I never looked his way, (my periphial vision works fine by the way). The second time, I was crossing the street, he rolled right on by, again, I wouldn't make eye contact.
Im just confused at his tactics. Isn't he happier now that he drove us all away? He has these new younger girls to fill up his days with? I just made 50 and he just made 52. We have two beautiful grandchildren, our three kids are all adults now, the youngest 23. These girls are as young as 25 - 30. Why is he trying to be seen by me now?
Sorry for ranting you guys, it still hurts, but Im trying to move forward. Anybody got any ideas of what might be happening from his point of view. :wtf: :rant:
