My fiance and I got engaged fairly recently, after knowing each other for nearly 2 years. In many ways we are highly compatible, and the chemistry is strong between us. The problem started back in May, when we had been together for nearly a year. My fiance belongs to FB. An ex-girlfriend found him and initiated contact. And then she planned a reunion. She was apparently part of an old "gang" that he had very fond memories of. He invited me to attend and I did. We had a fairly good time, even though it was rather weird to meet not one, but two ex girlfriends, both married. So we attended, and I thought that would be the end of it. But my fiance volunteered to scan a huge box of photographs of the old gang, which belonged to the ex girlfriend who hosted the party. So, for a whole year, most of his spare time was devoted to scanning these pictures. We had been working on several projects together, and these got placed on hold. After six months, I was getting heartily sick of hearing stories about these people. Then he talked about hand delivering these pictures. I had not felt good vibes from this ex-girlfriend. I did not feel comfortable with the thought that he wanted to go down there alone. But I said nothing. Anyway, he ended up not going; after all, it is a good two hour hike from here. Then they held another reunion this year. The ex girlfriend was there, and openly flirted with my fiance, kept monopolizing his time, etc. She ignored me when we first arrived, and barely was friendly. I got really pissed off, and wondered why he was allowing this. When we got home, we had it out. All he did was defend her. I nearly threw him out. He kept insisting that I was jealous and that she had not been inappropriate. I cried myself sick. We finally got through that, but he still talks to her on FB. Offering her advise on computer issues, etc. Worse, he wants to move down that way after we are married. I am sick of seeing her stupid face on FB, and I am sick of this long distance "friendship." Even though he knows how I feel, he keeps in touch. I am beginning to lose interest in marriage. This really hurts, because I have loved this man better than any other man I've known. He can't seem to get his priorities straight. I have scheduled counseling for us, and he is willing to go, but I fear it is too late.