I have been married for 8 years now and my husband and I have sex maybe once every three months. There is no passion,foreplay,romance or talk. There isnt even kissing. He is just very ....cold. He gets his and then it is over, mostly I get a verbal Thanks. I know he loves me, but I think it is more like one loves their favorite slippers. I AM a very attractive woman, though not arrogant about it, I know I incite response from other men, but with my husband, it's total blahness. He is a good man and an excellent father/provider etc, but theres no passion in him. We never talk intimately, it's more like just breathing in the same room. I have asked him to get his testosterone checked, he insists he is fine, I have asked him what excites him, he says ahh... it depends then he quits talking. I have tried initiating foreplay, he isnt interested unless HE is in the mood. I feel like our roles are reversed. Like he doesnt want to because he has a headache.... geez. I have tried EVERYTHING to change things, fix things, encourage him etc. He says, "I am just this way" Sex isn't a big deal to me" ... yet he has an addiction to online porn. But I dont have a clue how he releases energy because it isnt on me. I am pretty sure he isnt cheating but I am not certain. I am lost here guys and need help. I made a commitment to myself,God and him to hang in there through thick and thin, but when does it come to the point where it is ok to quit? I have even had serious health issues due to lack of human touch, it is craziness but it can slowly kill you if you are never touched, it deprives you of needed chemicals in your brain..... I am desperate here.