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My husband and i have been separated one year now. He has had a gf for about 8 or 9 months. I feel like i am obsessed with her, how he treats her and it ids keeping me from healing.
Everything I complained about, everything I wanted (and these things I wanted to help me heal after the PA) he gives her, along with so much more! Her pictures are all over his Instagram and FB, its like he is so proud to have her and show everyone how in love they are. I was his wife for 5 years and it was like i was a secret.
I have read all the articles about how it is the honeymoon stage (but again, its been almost a year and they are sooo happy together) and that based on his past relationships, that he will not be the prince he is now with her for long, and how i shouldnt even worry myself with her or how he treats her.
I feel like this keeps me hurting. While dealing with his constant anger, his constantly doing things to try to hurt me, his neglect of our son- it is just overwhelming at times
I have read that maybe he regrets his decision to leave and thats why he is so angry, that he works harder with the gf to make it work to keep his pride intact, that he is Secretly miserable.....I am beginning to wonder if people tell me these things out of pity - do they just feel bad to see me being humiliated the way that I am when I dont even bother this man?
We rarely talk, havent spoken to him in 3weeks. he came over yesterday to see his daughter who lives with me, I stayed upstairs and didnt even see him. Most times I feel so much stronger, feel like I will be ok, I have gone back to school, I have wonderful friends, I have not started dating yet but I dont feel constantly lonely. Yet everytime I feel I can get through this I wake up in the morning and feel like he just Left!!!!!
When will this end? What am I doing wrong? Why do I feel like I will NEVER get over this?
Everything I complained about, everything I wanted (and these things I wanted to help me heal after the PA) he gives her, along with so much more! Her pictures are all over his Instagram and FB, its like he is so proud to have her and show everyone how in love they are. I was his wife for 5 years and it was like i was a secret.
I have read all the articles about how it is the honeymoon stage (but again, its been almost a year and they are sooo happy together) and that based on his past relationships, that he will not be the prince he is now with her for long, and how i shouldnt even worry myself with her or how he treats her.
I feel like this keeps me hurting. While dealing with his constant anger, his constantly doing things to try to hurt me, his neglect of our son- it is just overwhelming at times
I have read that maybe he regrets his decision to leave and thats why he is so angry, that he works harder with the gf to make it work to keep his pride intact, that he is Secretly miserable.....I am beginning to wonder if people tell me these things out of pity - do they just feel bad to see me being humiliated the way that I am when I dont even bother this man?
We rarely talk, havent spoken to him in 3weeks. he came over yesterday to see his daughter who lives with me, I stayed upstairs and didnt even see him. Most times I feel so much stronger, feel like I will be ok, I have gone back to school, I have wonderful friends, I have not started dating yet but I dont feel constantly lonely. Yet everytime I feel I can get through this I wake up in the morning and feel like he just Left!!!!!
When will this end? What am I doing wrong? Why do I feel like I will NEVER get over this?